My Parents Cut My Custom-Made Birthday Cake One Day Before the Party, and Here Is What I Did
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A woman and mother-of-2 has found herself in a tough situation because of an incident with her mother-in-law. She thinks what happened was very serious, but her husband isn’t quite on the same page, and he claims she’s exaggerating. As such, the woman turned to social media to figure out what to do.
She wrote:
“My 9-year-old daughter became a vegetarian about 8 months ago (her friend’s older sister’s influence) and takes it surprisingly seriously, given her age. For some bizarre reason, my mother-in-law has a serious problem with it and hates that my husband and I allow it. We had a small confrontation about it a few months ago, but she seemed to back off after I made it clear I wasn’t interested in her input.
On Friday night, we had dinner with my husband’s parents and she served spaghetti. It was a meat sauce for the rest of us, but when she gave my daughter her bowl, she said, all sweetly, ’And a special veggie sauce just for you.’ Halfway through her bowl, my daughter started to panic and asked my MIL if she was sure there was no meat in the sauce. My MIL insisted there was none. I took her plate to inspect and sure enough, there was beef in her sauce. When I stated there was indeed meat in it, my daughter immediately began to cry.
I took her into the living room to calm her down while my husband confronted his mom. She, at first, insisted it was an accident, but after he established he didn’t buy that for a second, she admitted it was intentional. She said she thought by reminding her how delicious meat was, she would ’give up that vegetarian nonsense.’ She said she couldn’t see what the big deal was and suggested we get our daughter therapy because the fact she cried over it was ’very troubling, and a sign something is wrong with her.’
At that point, I insisted we leave. In the car, we explained to our daughter that there was nothing wrong with her and that her grandma was 100% in the wrong. She seemed to have already come to that conclusion on her own, though.”
“My MIL sent a half-assed text apology to my husband last night. Basically saying, ’I shouldn’t have done that, but [insert essay about why eating meat is no big deal and daughter overreacted here].’ He hasn’t responded because we’re still trying to figure out what to say and how to handle the situation.
I’m beyond livid. He’s trying to figure out things to say to get her to understand our daughter’s feelings, like asking her how she would feel if someone tricked her into eating a dog. However, I strongly feel like we shouldn’t have to do that. We shouldn’t have to defend our daughter’s personal choice not to eat meat and her right to have that respected. We shouldn’t have to try to validate her feelings of being deeply upset after she was tricked into doing something she is strongly morally opposed to by someone she trusted.
I told my husband I don’t trust his mother to feed my kids anymore. He thinks I’m overreacting, and we should give her a second chance once the dust settles with this, but my trust is gone. She took it upon herself to decide my daughter was ’wrong’ for being a vegetarian and tried to ’fix’ her. She decided she knew best and ignored not only my daughter’s boundaries, but ours as her parents, not to push meat on her.
It also worries me because our 5-year-old has a peanut allergy that she scoffs at. She’s never tried to sneak her peanut products, but she’s dismissed it as ’probably not serious’ and has said how people ’outgrow allergies, so she probably will too.’ After this incident with the meat, I’m terrified she’ll decide to ignore that food restriction too.
What do you guys think? Am I overreacting for feeling like she shouldn’t be given a second chance when it comes to feeding my kids after this?”
Perhaps to the mom’s surprise, everyone in the comment section of her post seems to have sided with her, reassuring her that she isn’t overreacting at all.
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