Sometimes It’s Hard to Get Over a Person Who Doesn’t Love You Back, but Here’s Why It Can Be a Good Thing
Whether you have a crush on someone you’ve just met, or you’ve been in love with someone you’ve known your whole life — if the love isn’t mutual, it can bring a lot of pain. However, what’s important to keep in mind is that this kind of love isn’t as intense as the love you’ll be able to feel when you meet someone who will love you back. And while you wait, unrequited love can actually teach you something useful.
We at Bright Side have all been there, so you’re not alone in this struggle. But there are actually some benefits one-sided love can bring to you!
It can change the way you look at rejection.
If someone rejects you, you might feel like a failure. It’s certainly an unpleasant experience when someone you love doesn’t love you back. But it doesn’t have to be something you are embarrassed about, and it doesn’t mean you aren’t good enough or are unworthy of love. You can choose to interpret this rejection differently and learn something from it without feeling bad about it.
It can help you understand what you need in a relationship.
When you’re in love with someone, but you can’t be with them in real life, you might make up fantasies about them. And this can be useful because that way you can learn about what you need and what makes you happy. You might learn more about yourself and it might help you find the right partner in the future.
It can be therapeutic.
Making up fantasies can also help you relax from the stress you encounter in real life. Visualizing something that makes you feel good can actually make you feel good physically. For your body, there’s also no difference between real and imagined love. So when you create fake scenarios in your head with the person you’re in love with, dopamine will be released.
You can learn what makes you happy.
One-sided love is painful, so you’ll need to do things that you enjoy to help you deal with the pain. Whether it be a hobby, or spending time with your friends — the healing experience might show you what things or what people truly matter and bring joy in your life.
It might help you improve yourself.
At first, you might want to change something in yourself to become more appealing to the person you’re in love with. But you might end up doing it just for yourself, and become better in some aspects that you weren’t satisfied with in the past.
You might learn how to be happy on your own.
In the beginning, it might be hard to not be with the person you love. But with time, you might realize that the key to your happiness lies within you and that you don’t need another person to feel that happiness. You alone are enough to feel complete and to fill your life with positive emotions.
You might be more cautious in relationships.
After being rejected, it might be difficult to start a new relationship or to find someone you can trust. But that can be a good thing. It can give you more time to get to know someone better and to decide whether they’re right for you.
You become selfless.
Unrequited love means you love someone unconditionally, without asking anything in return. And you also want the person you love to be happy, even if it means you’re not the one who’s meant to be with them and make them happy.
It can make you tougher.
Life is made up of a lot of things that you might not like or that don’t always go the way you want them to. One-sided love is one of those things, but you can come out of this situation stronger. It might teach you how to deal with rejection, and not just in romantic relationships. You might also learn how to not give up on yourself and to keep going in difficult times.
It proves you can love again.
It might feel like you love that one person so much that you’ll never be able to get over them, and that you’ll be alone your whole life. But that doesn’t have to be true. If you love someone who doesn’t love you as much, imagine how much love your heart is storing for the person who will love you back.
Have you ever been in love with someone who didn’t feel the same way about you? What helped you move on? What did that experience teach you?