10 Celebs Shared Their Thoughts on Why They Chose to Be Childfree
The decision of whether or not to have children is a very personal one. But being in the spotlight means that celebrity women are often asked about whether they are planning to become mothers. And these strong and accomplished women used their celebrity status to speak up about why they chose to be childfree.
We at Bright Side admire these women and their honesty about their choice.
1. Jennifer Aniston
The Friends star wrote an open letter in which she expressed her thoughts about being childfree. “We don’t need to be married or mothers to be complete. We are complete with or without a mate, with or without a child,” she wrote. “Yes, I may become a mother someday. But I’m not in pursuit of motherhood because I feel incomplete in some way,” she added.
2. Betty White
The legendary actress who is often called America’s Grandma isn’t a grandmother in real life. “I love children,” she said. “The only problem with children is they grow up to be people and I just like animals better than people. It’s that simple.”
3. Miley Cyrus
The actress and singer doesn’t feel like she has to live up to someone else’s expectations. “We’re expected to keep the planet populated. If you don’t want children, people feel sorry for you,” she said. Cyrus reveals that she cares about the environment, and her choice to not have children is partly based on that: “Until I feel like my kid will be able to live on an earth with fish in the water, I’m not bringing another person in to deal with that.”
4. Sarah Paulson
The Ratched star believes it would be hard for her to devote her time to acting and being a mother. “I don’t want to be torn,” Paulson says. “I don’t want to look at my child and say, ’You’re the most extraordinary thing that ever happened to me, but also the death knell.’ It was hard for my mother to be everywhere, to come to the school play, and to make a living.” Although the actress never wanted to have children of her own, she thinks of the characters she plays on screen as her children.
5. Tracee Ellis Ross
This award-winning actress says the social pressure on women is enormous. “It’s really interesting to be a woman, and to get to 45, and to not be married, and to not have kids. I look back and think about all the ways we’re told that those 2 goals: being chosen and having kids, are what makes you worthy,” she said. Ross admits it took her a while to realize her life was actually hers, and that it’s up to her to decide how to live it.
6. Helen Mirren
The Oscar winner says she never thought that motherhood was her destiny. “I never felt the need for a child and never felt the loss of it. I’d always put my work before anything,” she said. However, she admits that one particular movie made her doubt her decision a bit: “When I watched the movie, Parenthood, I sobbed for about 20 minutes. I sobbed for the loss of [the chance at parenthood] and the fact that I never experienced it.”
7. Sarah Silverman
The actress and stand-up comedian explained on Twitter why she chose to not have kids. “As a comic always working and on the road, I have had to decide between motherhood and living my fullest life and I chose the latter,” she wrote.
8. Lily Tomlin
The Grace and Frankie star was first asked if she wanted to have children in 1973. “As a female, even to say you didn’t necessarily want to have a child or act out the traditional role of any kind was heavy. But even to make a public statement like that was kind of hard to do in those days,” she said. The 81-year-old actress never regretted her decision: “I’m glad I don’t have any children. I really do like kids, but there wouldn’t have been room in my life to raise children.”
9. Dolly Parton
Although the legendary singer married young, she never thought she was meant to be a mother and she loves her siblings’ children just like her own. “I often think, it just wasn’t meant for me to have kids so everybody’s kids can be mine,” she says. Parton admits it was always easy for her to connect with children: “I’m like a cartoon character — my voice is little and I’m an excitable little person like them! I’m very childlike in that way, in my nature.”
10. Allison Janney
The Oscar-winning actress played one of TV’s most famous moms on a hit sitcom, but she chose to never get married or have kids. “I wasn’t ever really confident that I wanted to have kids. I would rather regret not having kids than have kids and regret that,” she said.
What do you think about people who chose not to have kids? Do you think you could be fulfilled or happy without children?