15 People Who Need Advice on the Morality of Their Actions

We are not always sure whether we’ve done the right thing, especially when it comes to friends or family members. So, some Internet users decided to post their stories online and ask for the opinion of other people to figure out what to do. Read on and tell us whose side you are on.

• My 20-year-old son has been in a relationship with his girlfriend for about 3 years now. I love my son and I hate to say this, but he’s not turned out to be a good person. He has very little work ethic, has no desire to get a job or go to college, and spends most of his time gaming or partying. His girlfriend, on the other hand, is the polar opposite.
  She’s very studious, has aspirations to be a doctor, is a very good swimmer, and is currently away at college. I just feel she deserves better. When she came to visit a few days ago, she was visibly upset. She told me that she didn’t know what to do and wondered why my son had such little ambition and was so lazy. I told her to put herself first and do what she wanted.
  Well, earlier today, my son comes downstairs in a rage telling me that his girlfriend had broken up with him and referred to “discussions with your mom.” My son was livid that I’d gotten involved and said I’d overstepped boundaries. I told him that I didn’t advise her to leave him, just said she had to make her own choices and decide what was best for her. My son is now not talking to me and my husband is annoyed. Am I in the wrong? © Minute-Layer-4412 / Reddit
• I work with this woman who has a very annoying habit. She has a dating profile that she uses specifically to lure guys to buying her expensive dinners at restaurants she wants to try, and then ghosts them. She brags about this all the time, and is never interested in actually dating, but she’ll act like it to sell it. I can’t stand this because it’s playing with people’s hearts, but this woman thinks of it as a life hack to try food or drinks she otherwise couldn’t afford.
  My friend Daniel is also on dating sites, but for the right reasons. A few days ago, he texted me asking if I knew her. They matched and got to talking about work, which is how he found out we worked at the same place. I told him all about her restaurant thing, and made it very clear to him, he would do best to drop things with her early on. My friend said he’d probably still do the date but ask for separate checks.
  Well, they went out this past weekend, and on Monday my colleague came into work very upset. Apparently, she had my friend take her to a high-end steakhouse, and she ended up splurging. So now she’s mad at me because I told someone about her little tactic, and it backfired on her. Some other people we work with also said I should have stayed out of it because it was none of my business. © notyourcustodian / Reddit

• 4 years ago I eloped with my partner and got married with no one in attendance. We’d been together for 5 years prior and this marriage was more of a formality for us rather than a celebration.
  Recently, my best friend and I were having a conversation about marriage where I causally mentioned that I was married and had been for years. This totally offended her that I’d kept this information from her. She felt betrayed and questioned our friendship. Am I in the wrong? © player2-go / Reddit
• My ex-husband and I have been divorced for 5 years, we have 3 kids together who are now teenagers. We agreed our kids came first and have always co-parented very well. My ex has been dating a girl for 3 years now, and she doesn’t like me.
  My ex and she got engaged recently, and he called me yesterday saying he is giving me a heads-up that I have a year to change my last name back to my maiden name as his fiancée is expressing her distaste and concern for her and I to have the same last name when they get married. I told him I don’t want to have a different last name than our kids. He said I’m being unreasonable. Am I? © ThrowRAHappyLiving / Reddit
• My husband and I finally bought our first house. Over the holidays, we thought we’d take on the role of hosting a few get-togethers. From my perspective, it was hell. I hated every second of it.
  My in-laws did things like, let kids run around screaming/yelling, up and down stairs, touching things that didn’t belong to them, making messes and not making them clean up after themselves. Parents didn’t bring anything for the kids to do and got pissed with us for not having anything for them. They brought a dog into our house, and let it on the furniture. They stomped around the house with their shoes on despite being asked to remove them. They left trash sitting around or balled up instead of placing it in the trash.
  My husband was shocked at his family’s behavior and didn’t know what to say. When he talked to his mom and dad after, they just laughed at us and said, “That’s what hosting is.” Easter is coming up, and my in-laws asked what our plans are. My husband said that we aren’t going to host after everyone’s awful manners. His mom and dad are upset with us. Should we change our minds? They’re still our family. © Poplar_Flower_4409 / Reddit
• I got married 2 weeks ago. My father’s girlfriend has a daughter, who is finishing her degree in fashion. She wants to get into the wedding dress industry once she graduates.
  When I started planning my wedding, she offered to design and make my dress. We met up a few times to discuss our ideas. During those, I realized our styles were drastically different, but we still managed to agree on a design. Eventually, the dress looked nothing like the design we’d agreed on. It was the wrong color, the wrong style, everything.
  When I tried it on, I found out it was also about 3 sizes too big. I called her and told her I wouldn’t wear the dress. I offered to pay her for her work (she’d made the dress for free), but she declined and hung up on me. I went to a retail bridal store with my maid of honor, and we found a beautiful gown that didn’t need much altering. It looked exactly like what I wanted.
  Fast-forward to my wedding, I walked down the aisle in the dress I bought. The girl seemed to be on the verge of tears during the ceremony, and her mother gave me dirty looks throughout the reception. Eventually, they left less than an hour into the reception. My father and his girlfriend called me the next day and said it was insulting of me to not wear the dress the girl had put so much effort into. I’ve been feeling guilty about this since I decided not to wear the dress. Was I in the wrong? © ThrwayStepSisDress / Reddit

• I have 2 daughters and my neighbor has 2 sons, our children are the same age. My neighbor’s husband is often on business trips, and she works from home. I am a teacher, so during holidays my neighbor often sends her children to play with mine (they annoy her at home). Our kids used to get along well, but lately my daughters have been complaining that the boys are fighting and saying that we are boring.
  Recently, the neighbor asked if I could look after the boys for 2 days as she works, and I’m “off work” (it’s the holidays). I said I will not be babysitting her kids and she got terribly indignant! In her opinion, I should be helping her! And her son told my kids I was a bad person. Did I do something wrong? © Surfergirl7681 / Reddit
• I was taking a shower when my girlfriend started banging on the locked bathroom door. The running water made it hard to hear what she was saying. That’s when she started turning the light on and off to get my attention. I yelled that I’d be done soon, but she kept going until I opened it.
  Turns out she was in a hurry and needed the bathroom. I was annoyed by the whole thing, and she was offended that I didn’t open the door right away. Which one of us is right? © Einebeine1 / Reddit
• Our group of friends got together for a party, and my husband and I hired a babysitter for our 3-year-old so we could have a good time. One of the friends has a 5-year-old daughter, and she mentioned that she was going to take her along. I said it was inappropriate as no one would be able to really relax in front of a child, especially minding the fact that their daughter is very active, and the parents allow her a lot.
  I shared my doubts with another friend who was organizing everything, and he told this friend not to bring her daughter. She threw a tantrum and said she wouldn’t come herself then. Am I wrong? © This_Value_4194 / Reddit
• I’ve been married for 5 years now on my second marriage. My 14-year-old daughter from my first marriage lives with us. Her mother doesn’t want to know her, but my second wife has become a good stepmother to my daughter, they have a close relationship.
  But then my daughter decided to change her long hair to a pixie cut. When she came home happy with her new haircut, my wife looked like she was about to faint. She asked me why I let my daughter get a haircut. I replied that it was what my daughter wanted.
  My wife got angry and said I had messed it up and the girl looked bad. I advised my wife to ignore it, but she persisted. Now she is resentful of both me and my daughter. But I just wanted my daughter to be happy. Am I wrong? © Mysterious_Raise_156 / Reddit

• A few days ago, my ex-husband mistakenly transferred a large amount of money to me. It was early in the morning, I was asleep, and when I woke up, I found a hundred missed calls and texts asking me to return the money. But the thing is that he owed me a large amount of money for a long time (I lent it to him after the divorce, when he was broke and without a job), so I deducted the money he owed me and sent him the rest.
  A scandal broke out! Turns out he had saved up to buy his new girlfriend an engagement ring, and now the engagement was off. Now his girlfriend is sending me angry messages on social media, and his parents, with whom I had a warm relationship, are on his side. We have 4 children in common, and I didn’t even deduct past due child support. Was I right to do this? © rare-temp / Reddit
• I won a free trip for 4 people on holiday for 5 nights. When I told my wife about it, she got excited and said her 11-year-old daughter from her first marriage would be very happy to go. We could also take my mother-in-law with us to look after her daughter, so we would have some time to ourselves. She was so absorbed in planning the trip that she didn’t even hear what I wanted.
  When I repeated that I wanted to invite a couple of our friends along and have some adult time, she didn’t like it one bit. She insisted on her option, and we never came to an agreement. The next day, she told her daughter about it without asking me. We had an argument, and she said I was being selfish. But I won the trip! Am I wrong? © freerideaita / Reddit
• My son is dating a girl from a very rich family. She’s nice, we’ve become close. My son is worried that it might seem like he’s only dating her for her money, so he always pays his share of their joint expenses and refuses her gifts.
  Yesterday was my birthday and his girlfriend gave me a very expensive designer handbag that I could never afford. I was very touched, but my son got very angry and demanded that I return the gift, as it might cast a shadow on him because then he would be suspected of being a gold digger. I said I wouldn’t return it. Am I wrong? ©Icy_Instruction2768 / Reddit

• We had a baby last September and moved in with my mum to save up some money on our own house. My mum enthusiastically agreed to this, but now she is constantly interfering with the baby’s care, doing everything her own way, giving him the wrong food and ignoring my pleas not to.
  I told her that she would no longer look after the baby alone, and now she’s not talking to me. She said my words made her feel like a bad mother and grandmother. Am I wrong? © SatisfactionOk7409 / Reddit
• My husband and I do Easter baskets for one another. This year, he gave me one as well. It contained sweets, cute little things, and 3 full bottles of perfumes that were on my wish list. I was over the moon and posted a photo of the gift on social media.
  The next day, my sister came to visit me and asked if my husband had stepped out on me or something and was trying to make it up to me. I was stunned and asked what the problem was. The sister said that many women can’t get their husbands to give them anything even for Christmas, and she herself would still be lucky if she got even a birthday card from her husband.
  I replied that if she chose the wrong man for her, she shouldn’t blame it on me and be so mean and jealous. She got very offended by my words, and now she doesn’t talk to me. Was I rude to her? © PerfumeInABottle / Reddit

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