Someone Sent Fake Texts to My Girlfriend Trying to Break Us Up—I Was Not Expecting Who It Was

Everyone always talks about toxic relationships—but what about toxic friendships? For Dylan, it wasn’t a romantic partner who left him feeling drained and betrayed—it was his best friend. He never expected that the person he once confided in would use his own words against him, but that’s exactly what happened.

I thought I could trust her.

“Hi, Bright Side readers! I’m Dylan. My girlfriend received an anonymous message: screenshots of my texts, twisted to make it look like I was cheating with another friend. Some were saying, ‘I need to find someone new.’ Others said, ‘I’m not sure if I can do this anymore,’ which, as you can imagine, sounded very suspicious to my partner. The things I said were ripped from context.

Someone was sabotaging me. I didn’t know who would do something like this. Turns out it was the person I least expected. My best friend. I pieced it together when I had a closer look at the messages. A lot of them used the same emoji she’d use and the same text writing style, so it wasn’t hard to figure out. I decided to cut her off.”

“I couldn’t believe it. We’ve known each other since college. For years, I was her support system. Every breakup, every toxic job, every family drama—she came to me. I listened, even helped her move out of a terrible relationship once. I never asked for anything in return.

Before cutting her off, she was talking nonstop about how ‘everyone leaves her’ and how ‘no one understands what she’s going through.’ Her boyfriend hadn’t worked in two years and she was working two jobs to keep them afloat. I felt for her—but I also felt drained. Every time I tried to share something positive from my own life, she found a way to redirect it back to her suffering.”

The breaking point.

“Still, I cared. So when I came across an opportunity—a remote support job—I thought of Jason. I sent it to her, gently suggesting it might help ease her burden. The message I got back was cold. ‘Why are you always trying to fix my life? Do you think you’re better than us?’

This was the breaking point that led to me leaving her, but now she made things worse with my personal relationship. What’s the best way I can deal with this?”

Dealing with toxic friends.

Thank you, Dylan, for sharing your personal story. One-sided friendships can be hard, and you don’t have to feel guilty for choosing your mental peace. Here are some suggestions from us that might help you navigate the situation ahead:

Advice moving forward.

• Communicate with your girlfriend: Clear up the misunderstandings with honesty. Show her the context, explain the betrayal, and let her know you’re committed to transparency. Healing your relationship is priority now.
• Reassess your boundaries: She’s already crossed a major line by weaponizing your private conversations. No matter how long the friendship lasted, this kind of betrayal needs distance.
• Understand that caring doesn’t equal saving: It’s human to want to help, but it’s not your job to fix people—especially those who refuse to help themselves or twist your intentions.
• Forgiveness doesn’t have to mean reconnection: You can forgive someone in your heart for your peace—without ever letting them back in.

Some signs of a toxic friendship are hard to uncover. They can be as subtle as minor comments that you don’t think twice about. Learn how you can spot them from this article.