I Refuse to Keep Paying for “Family Trips” I Never Get to Go On

Don't give stepmum anymore money playing you like a fiddle

First off why pay for something you don't use. Cause waves and drama there is no way I'm paying for some elses vacation.

I certainly wouldn't pay $800.00 for something I never received.

You are still very kind to invite your half siblings kids and give them treats.

This is stupid. You are paying for a beach rental yearly that you never get to see. Then you pay the $800 rental again AND pay for another rental, too. Girl- are you made of money? I would have stopped the payment the minute I was not allowed to participate. Forget family drama you are being defrauded by family. Grow a spine and quit paying for something you are not getting or consider it a donation and don't complain.

Idk what kind of “going forward” you’re picturing without resentment, but is there any fun in all of this? And if “drama” means you’re disagreeing with some actions, then there’s probably going to be drama. Vacations shouldn’t equal stress, but be the OPPOSITE of that.

Mmmmmmm I've cut my family too i help pull them out of the rut not a thanks you but we are better now I send a Christmas card every year advice payday loan location hahaha.

Girl, do not pay stepmother anything! Spend that money on entertaining the people you want at YOUR cabin! Exclude dad and stepmother though--give them back exactly the treatment you have been getting.

What dummy keeps paying $800 for a trip they are excluded from???

I would NEVER give her another dime. One time maybe but year after year there is no freaking way I'd put up with that crap. You need to rent your own cabin and invite only the people you want there and leave her out and see how she likes it. Fair is fair and if she dosnt like it remind her that this is how you feel year after year and see how she likes it. Fair is fair. Tell her that you have feelings too and you're tired of being left out. See how she likes it. Chances are she is not gonna be happy. Oh well. How does she like being left out? NOT fun is it? Oh well. What goes around comes around. Go have fun and maybe she will learn something. Worth a try anyway. Good luck.

I can understand it happening once, cause you wouldn't expect someone to be so awful, but to keep doing it, no way. Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on ME. Stop falling for her games

I truly don't understand why you let this happen more than once, but you change the past. I do wonder if the others actually kick in that much money or if you were paying for everyone. If you just go on vacation with them, just tell them that you are making your own accomodations and do give them a cent. Don't bring up the past, cause they know and want to argue and will try to guilt you. Don't even open that door for them.

I'm surprised you paid more than twice. I wouldn't have bothered after that.

Take over the planning. You collect the money and you make the reservations - with room for everyone.

Stop giving her money. It isn't about drama. Your dad's perspective on this is bizarre.

Why keep paying if you know you're not actually invited. Save your money and enjoy being home alone without them

Your stepmonster AND your so called father are Aholes! POS BOTH of them! It's ok Karma absolutely will find them both😈

Why on earth would you contribute $800 for a trip your stepmom keeps excluding you on every single year? You do realize she and your Dad are intentionally doing this too you.

Not only should you NEVER give money to your stepmom again but you should also give her a bill for all those years you gave your fair share and were excluded. BTW, in case you haven't figured this out yet, she did that year after year on purpose.

Don’t give money to her or your Dad, you’re not in the loop.

You need to stop giving her anymore money. When she demands that year's just tell her "Sorry but we just can't afford it. I know you'll understand being short at times." Repeat the sorry part as necessary. And go where you want, away from.theirfamily. Because I'm sorry but, you aren't family and need to admit to yourself.ayne with the help of a therapist.