I Refused to Sacrifice My Retirement for My Daughter’s Unplanned Baby

If you let her stay she has squatters rights. It might be uncomfortable but I would explain this isn't her home and she has to leave. This might blow up your family and people will take sides so be prepared that this will not be an easy road.

Her stuff would have been thrown out the front door in two seconds flat. Don't play that shit with me Daughter dear you will lose everytime!!!

It sounds like your daughter is very vindictive. She said you will regret this and did the meanest thing she could think of. Not that she was hey mom, I miss you and I'm out of money and I need a place to stay can I please move back? But you will regret this and if I can't have your money I'm taking it. Wth?! Best you can do is this. She is going to go through your mail so hide your bank statements either statements or a p.o. box. Then make a decision: keep your relationship with her or kill your relationship with her. If you kick her out, she is already vindictive, she will stop talking to you and take the baby away. Maybe or maybe not forever but a good long time. If you keep her there, mention you are struggling too and it's so nice to have her there to help with bills and groceries. Make it uncomfortable for her to be there so it is her idea to go. Talk to her about going after the dad for child support. Invite people to the house, maybe from your church to help talk to her about this. Up to you really, but how you choose to progress with determine your future relationship with your daughter.

No you are not wrong. Its ok to help once in a while. Unplanned pregnancy is her problem. She is grown. You already raised her. You let her stay you will be continuing to raise her and your grandchild. You are not her bank. Help when you can. But make her responsible for her actions

Grow a spine and give her the boot.

I had my first daughter at 19 I NEVER expected my parents to do anything!! I worked 2 jobs and refused to ask for even a pack of diapers!! Granted my parents were thrilled (after she was born) and bought her EVERYTHING (I asked them not to). They did it cuz they wanted not because I asked or demanded!! She is a spoiled brat!! Tell her to GTFO you did not agree to anything! She made the problem she can fix it! Go enjoy retirement girl!!

Number one, change the locks. #2, call the police. You have a trespasser who won't leave. #3 (this may or may not be necessary), get a TRO keeping her away. #4 (this, too, may or may not be necessary) call CPS. But be prepared for the fallout. Put her crap out on the front porch.

Say ok then do what I do when my daughter would stay with me and think she was bringing her latest bum to stay at my home. Make a list of chores to be done everyday and every week BE VERY DETAILED on how you want them done. If she doesn't do them or half asses them change the Internet password. What ever rent is there where you live charge her that amount and charge her for babysitting. If you don't need the money put it up where she doesn't no where it's at save it until you have enough to pay deposit, and several months rent for her. Have an attorney write up a contract including everything rent, babysitting fees, chore expectations, that she moved in without your knowledge and permission while you weren't home because you refused to give her more money. She is basically a squatter. If she refuses to sign start eviction process give her a written notice if she doesn't leave (she won't) then file eviction in court have her served go in front of a judge she will sign or move. However there is a nother thing to find out first, 20, first baby (unplanned), broke, desperate enough to just move in on mom... It's time for counseling she might have postpartum depression even if it doesn't seem like it she could be scared and not sure of herself where she's going how she is going to get there. This could be a cry for serious help. Talk to her before you make any decisions. She may just need her mom

Tell her it's called a condom and she should of used one or picked a better partner or quit fuckin if you can't afford to pay for your choices and their consequences that's not at all your responsibility to help raise the kid tell her get out

Say : "YOU ARE NOT EVEN A GUEST IN HERE, GET THE HELL OUT OF HERE !!" too much entitled even if she stay in guest room. Bet she will nag you more with her "living in guestroom style"

Tell her to move out. She'll tell you that you can't see your grandbaby but, she'll need you to watch him. Make it on your schedule. But, get her out before it comes to eviction.