How dishes have access? File a dispute with whoever gave it to her( bank,credit card) see if legally you can sue or charge her for theft
OBVIOUSLY SHE DOESN'T CARE MUCH ABOUT YOUR FATHER(HER HUSBAND) Fraudulently taking your money. Start selling off stuff of hers. And stop by any means sharing any kind of finances.
I Saved for My Dad’s Surgery — but My Mom Took It, Her Reason Is Unforgivable


Sometimes, the deepest betrayals come not from strangers, but from the people we trust most. Financial sacrifices made over the years can be undone in a single, thoughtless decision. When family crosses that line, the shock cuts deeper than the loss itself.
Hello Bright Side,
I spent 2 years saving for my dad’s knee surgery. When I went to withdraw the money, only $150 was left. Panicked, I rushed home and asked my mom. She casually said, “It’s gone.” I froze. “Where did it go?” Slightly annoyed, she replied, “I used it to pay off my debts.”
It turns out, my mom had been borrowing money to maintain her “fancy” lifestyle. I was furious at how inconsiderate she was. She knew we couldn’t afford this anymore, especially after Dad went bankrupt.
I’m in shock and really don’t know what to do. Do you have any suggestions for me?


Thank you for opening up and trusting Bright Side with your story. Betrayal, especially when it comes from a parent, cuts deeper than almost anything else. It shakes your sense of safety and belonging. But you are not stuck here. Here are some steps to help you steady yourself, heal, and move forward stronger.
- Get receipts (literally and figuratively): Don’t just take her word for it. Ask for a breakdown of what debts she paid off and how. Sometimes seeing it in black and white helps you process and decide your next move.
- Don’t get sucked into being the family ATM: Your mom clearly sees money as a plug for her lifestyle problems. If you keep bailing her out (even unintentionally), she’ll keep draining. Draw a line
- Focus on what you can still do for your dad: The money’s gone, yes, but your effort to help him isn’t wasted. Look into hospitals that offer payment plans, charity programs, even crowdfunding. Sometimes support is more about resourcefulness than cash.
- Talk about it, even if it’s ugly: You can’t silently stew. Sit her down and spell it out: “You just stole from Dad’s surgery fund.” It might not fix things, but at least you’ll have said it plainly, without sugarcoating.
- Start planning for you: It sucks, but this is also your wake-up call: your mom isn’t financially reliable. Build your own financial firewall. Even if you forgive her emotionally, don’t ever hand her your savings again.
- Separate your money ASAP: If you’re sharing accounts, stop. Open your own, stash your savings elsewhere. Trust is gone, and that’s okay. Protect what’s yours from now on.
- Start planning for yourself: your mom isn’t financially reliable. Build your own financial firewall. Even if you forgive her emotionally, don’t ever hand her your savings again.
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