I Told My Coworkers I’m Child-Free, Now HR Is Involved

Sorry, your freedom of speech may be restricted in the workplace. 1st Amendment reads "Congress shall make no law, etc"

And also not real.

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I think these are all fake. Most coworkers wouldn't act like this,and HR isnt going to drag someone in the office because they said they are sterile and not having kids. This is pretty far fetched.

I agree. No one cares enough to go to HR about such a thing. This was likely a fake letter conjured up by one of the many individuals who love to gripe online about people not respecting their decision to be child free. They're as tiresome as the people they complain about.

You'll be amazed

If you don't want to hear the answer then don't ask the question. Simple!

She told you everybody overshares...to report to HR??? OK Karen 👌

If she did shed be told "oh sure you will" "of course youll want them" women not wanting kids is "unheard of"

How in the HECK did you pull that off!? Everything i hear is youll be denied until your too old to have em!

Not true, Amanda. Yes, sterilization for a someone with ovaries is a more involved procedure than it is for someone with testicles, but many doctors will do it on demand. If your doctor is telling you they won't do the procedure unless "medical intervention" is necessary, please find a better doctor who listens to you.

That's simply not true. There's nothing else to say, you're just wrong.

No, I got offered it at a routine Dr's appointment. Not even there reg my fertility, I made a flippant comment and suddenly the Dr asked if I would be interested.

I live in a deprived area and they were doing a take up campaign (bigotry at its best). The same take up campaign was on after I had my first child but had ended 6 years later when I had my second. Though I was still told I could proceed with the op after both kids!

I do believe its a bit of a postcode lottery if you are a young female. However even if the op had medical intervention, why would she go into that much detail. They simply asked if/ when she'd have kids. Never, im sterilised is a pretty reasonable response. There is no need to disclose anything further as its not relevant to the conversation.

You have been misinformed. I had my tubes tied when I was 20 (68 now). It was quite voluntary because I did not want any more children (I have 2). My sister-in-law had a tubal and has no children. There was no medical intervention in either case. We each elected to have the procedure for our own reasons. No regrets.

How is saying you don't want kids and have made it so you never can 'baiting' anyone. She has the absolute 100% irrefutable right to get any procedure done on her own body. Absolutely no ones right to question or judge

You are clearly uneducated in this area. You can infact have your tubes tied as a way of not having children that has NOTHING to do with your health.

Why do women have to explain or justify their decisions to society?

Not true. You're wrong.

Well maybe in a Red State, sorry to get political, but everyone is know who lives in a blue state has had no issues getting a tubal even if they have no children. Granted, yes, it's easier for men to get "snipped", but women can get sterilized with out an issue if they really want to.

Yep, that is creepy how her asked.

seriously? why we cant answer questions truthfully? obviously this is something bery wrong with today society, HR for answering questions, it might be better that the rest of them should go to psychologist and get to the earth quickly, seriously people

Really? I bet you also think wishing someone a happy mothers day might be offensive to a third party because they can't conceive!

Oh, grow up! And no - questions about family planning are impertinent and invasive. There is absolutely nothing thoughtless about shutting those conversations down. The person asked for information and they got it.

This some real mental gymnastics what makes you assume this was a choice and not something the op has just accepted and come to terms with as a result of another medical incident?

So now women who choose not to have children shouldn't talk about it just in case they upset someone? Would you also advocate people with kids not to talk about them just in case they upset the childless?

I would think a woman who is TTC and unable would be much more injured by hearing other people talk on and on and on about their own children, pregnancies, and more successful fertility journeys... Wouldn't you?

She nipped it in the bud and invited no further response or advice ...presumably...willing to bet everyone of the offended lot are leftywokeys...

I regret not doing it earlier. I don't regret my kids but i wish it was something people talked about and cheered on more 15 yrs ago so I didn't just kind of...do what you're supposed to do, instead of what I wish there had been more conversations about. I was on the pill for one, the shot for the other. Used appropriately, daily at same time and overlap on shots. When my kids were around 5 my Mom decides to mention that she had 2 of us while on pill. Well thanks Mom... resistance to birth control is hereditary so it would have been nice to know! Also that's my favorite shutdown. Yeah i don't have those body parts anymore.