I Was Fired for Taking Days Off During a Family Emergency

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3 weeks ago
I Was Fired for Taking Days Off During a Family Emergency

Balancing work and family has never been harder. When a loved one ends up in the ICU, the last thing anyone should worry about is losing their job. Yet toxic workplace culture keeps making headlines, forcing employees into impossible choices. One reader recently shared her heartbreaking experience with us.

The letter:

Dear Bright Side,

I asked HR for a week off because my mother is in the ICU. She denied it since I already used all my days off.

When I insisted, HR said, “She’ll die anyway, don’t risk your job.” I ignored her. They fired me for taking an “unapproved vacation.”

But next day everyone froze when they discovered I’ve been recording everything. Every call, every email, every heartless word documented.

My lawyer sent a wrongful termination lawsuit that morning. But here’s what HR didn’t know: my “toxic workplace” TikTok explaining exactly what happened went viral overnight with 2.3 million views.

So, everyone turned pale when I sent an email. It said, “To all staff: Before deleting anything, know that I have recordings of HR saying my dying mother ’doesn’t matter.’ Legal discovery starts Monday. Witnesses will be subpoenaed. Choose your side wisely. The truth always surfaces.”

By noon, their Glassdoor rating tanked. Jobseekers on LinkedIn started withdrawing applications. Their biggest client called asking questions.

The CEO personally reached out offering my position back with a raise. I declined.

Mom survived her surgery, and I was right there holding her hand—jobless but present. Some companies forget that employees talk, document, and have platforms now.

HR policies matter, but so does basic humanity. That “unapproved vacation” cost them their reputation.

Was the company wrong, or should employees accept that business comes first otherwise they should get laid off?

— Elizabeth

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Happiness for your MoM. Glad you know the difference between a job and your family.

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You were definitely right in how you handled the matter, and good luck to both you and mom for the future.

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It's unfortunate but Musk has said empathy is a weakness and these bosses are taking him at his word. No empathy equals no humanity

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Naming and shaming was the perfect response to their behaviour. You KNOW they fully intended to badmouth you to possible future Employers, but now the truth of the matter is laid bare. Well done.

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I definitely agree with you. What hr said was heartless & uncalled for. I wonder if someone said that about her mom if she would've just took it. She should lose her job honestly

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I partly agree with the story yes they should have given her time off for her mother the boss shouldn't have been so heartless but she also shouldn't have put it on TikTok either like Jillian said it makes you look like a pyria that when you don't get your way you have a fit and post it online

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So glad canada has far better labour laws, family is protected leave for family is protected. We have US companies operating in Canada the canadian employees get so many better perks than our American counter parts. Oh and all our leaves are paid, including mat leave for 18 months. Dying parent sick parent falls under compassionate care all employers respect it as it costs them way less to do

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Assuming this story is true--which I actually don't--you were right to pursue legal action. FMLA is federal law, which your company violated by denying your request (again, assuming you actually followed the formal procedure to request this leave, which you don't specify). However, you've also now made yourself radioactive to any future employers with your little TikTok stunt. No one is going to want to hire you if they constantly have to walk on eggshells worrying that any little thing that upsets you will get blasted on the internet. (In fact, most big companies have specific social media policies on this, which you probably violated, that make make any legal claims harder to pursue.) Glad your mom is ok, but this may turn out to be a Pyrrhic victory in the long run.

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The lady has morals and values. She did right. Why should anyone be victimized for ever, purely because they stuck to what matters to them and stood up against pure bullies

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The company was completely wrong; probably violated state and federal family leave policies!

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I had a job like that, when my dad had passed away id called in that day to say what had happened and was told they didn't grant emergency leave , I took it off and the manager constantly called me to ask when I was coming back , I haven't even sorted his funeral yet and was told if I wasn't back they wouldn't pay me so unfortunately id no option, my mum passed away 4mths later and strangely enough the same manager said I could take all the time i needed to which I told her I wouldn't be back , no compassion what so ever , OP you did the right thing x

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Good for you I always keep everything a friend of mine is employed by a place that made her come to work no mask was allowed while she had COVID not when it first started but just a couple weeks ago they told her COVID isn't a real thing now grant it may not be like it was in the beginning but she was still sick as hell

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I hope that one day we will all be going to work in places where we’re valued and treated nicely

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I get that you were in a tough situation ... But you can't expect to get extra days off whenever someone is "going through a tough situation"
Otherwise there won't be anyone going to work anymore

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It's called the Family Medical Leave Act which requires a company to allow an employee to take unpaid time off (benefits must continue) to care for a sick family member. The law isn't optional.

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Wow you must work for the same company I hope and pray none of your family needs you did you not see the part her mother was in ICU nevermind no talking to a worthless piece of 💩 like you

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You have done a big mistake in denying the offer depriving yourself from salary increase, let alone the offer itself is apology for HR's misconduct through higher ranking officer

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You just as heartless as the other idiot that made about the same stupid comment hope your family never needs you oh wait money is more important to you 2

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I took an $8k/yr pay cut because I didn't like a work environment before. Some things are more important than money. In fact, a lot of things are more important than money.

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Hi Elizabeth!
Thank you for sharing your story—no one should face such toxic workplace behavior during a family emergency. Your courage to document everything could help countless others. Here’s our advice:

File FMLA Complaint Immediately.

If you’re in the US, the Family and Medical Leave Act protects employees caring for seriously ill family members. HR violated law by denying ICU-related leave.

File a complaint with the Department of Labor—this strengthens your wrongful termination case significantly. Your recordings prove retaliation, which doubles potential damages.

Monetize Your Viral Moment.

With 2.3 million views, brands notice you. Pivot this into paid partnerships with career coaching platforms, employee rights advocates, or workplace wellness brands.

Your story resonates—turn trauma into a new income stream. Consider launching a podcast about surviving corporate toxicity while job hunting.

Contact Investigative Journalists Now.

Reach out to reporters covering toxic workplace culture and employee rights. Media outlets love documented HR horror stories.

One viral article can pressure settlements faster than months of legal battles. Tag journalists on your TikTok—they actively scout viral workplace content for exposés.

Screenshot Their Panic Responses.

After your email, leadership will scramble. Save every reply, deleted message recovery, and witness statements. Companies often incriminate themselves during damage control.

Their rushed reactions become your strongest courtroom evidence. Watch for colleagues suddenly “remembering” witnessing HR’s behavior—document those, too.

After 17 years of loyalty, Debra never expected her company to replace her with a Gen Z supervisor hired for “fresh” perspective.
Workplace ageism is becoming a growing concern as older employees face unexpected career setbacks. But Debra refused to stay silent, and what happened next left everyone stunned.

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I asume that the compassionate leave has also been depleted. Unpaid authorised leave should have been offered. The comment if proven is unwanted.

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