What Toxic Masculinity Is and Why Men and Their Loved Ones Suffer From It

“I (27F) am a black African woman. I became quite friendly with a colleague (60F) and she invited me to her daughter’s wedding. I was excited as I’ve never been to a white wedding. I asked if there was a dress code to adhere to since it wasn’t specified on the invite. I was told the code is ‘dress to impress’. Bet.
Day of the wedding, I wear my traditional wear, which is really beautiful. I get a lot of questions and compliments at the wedding, which I genuinely downplay because it’s not my day.”
“My colleague seems colder than usual, but I pay it no mind since she’s mother of bride and could be preoccupied. The bride is downright rude to me, but again I give her grace.
Monday I walked into whispers in the office, people acted strangely and more reserved than usual. An office friend pulls me aside and fills me in: bride’s mother is fuming. My outfit was too extravagant and inappropriate. I drew attention from the bride and was rude and disrespectful. She’s told people all about it, apparently.”
“I approached mother of the bride and asked to speak, but she said she had nothing to say to me. I explained to everyone who was scolding me that this was my first white people wedding: I specifically asked what to do wear and followed the guidelines. Where I’m from, there’s no such thing as outshining the bride — weddings are a fashion show and a chance to wear your best and brightest clothes.
I’m wondering if what I did was really that bad?”
Many of us have become accustomed to the tradition of brides marrying in white dresses, adorned with veils and carrying bouquets. However, some women desire a more unique and memorable experience.