A mother's deepest sorrow is feeling like she's no longer fully embraced in her child's life. Greta is completely devastated after her son and daughter-in-law asked her to move out, saying there's no more room for her. Adding to her pain is the fact that it's Greta's own house they're living in. She sent us her story and asked for advice.
If they were secretly uncomfortable they should have moved out already. Why should you leave your home? They had 4 years to save up let them go find a place. And if they are willing to threaten you, you know NEiITHER have your interests at heart. Cut them loose and ket them go.. it is them who are jeopardizing theirs kids future.
Had enough privacy to to fill the house with kids....
Tell them you are staying and offer to allow them to put an addition on the house for the Baby room if they pay for it! Never give up your home, never! Or tell them to add a Mother-in-Law apartment with a private entrance and let them take out the loan! If they say "NO" to both of them, tell them they will have to move out because you are not going anywhere, and stick to your guns!
I knew a person who did something similar. She and her husband had two kids and they "moved themselves in" to his grandmother's house. The wife got pregnant with #3 and they booted the grandmother out of her room and made a "bedroom" out of the dining room. (the wife wasn't the "entertaining" type and would not be using the dining room). Eventually the wife convinced the husband to get granny to "sell" them (sign over, in other words) the house to them. The wife was a manipulative (and cheating) shrew. Granny eventually died and they KEPT the house, going so far as to tell his siblings they were not entitled to any of it. Wifey eventually divorced him and kept the house. NOT A GOOD PERSON. I hate stories like this and the people who take advantage of other people. This mother should hire a lawyer and KICK THEM OUT. Just despicable.
Never let someone take over your home and you..stay strong!
Let 'em leave. And make sure you will it to someone who will appreciate the gesture.
keep your house, let them leave, then sue for grandparents rights. Rights to calls, visitation and even 2 weeks in the summer
Definitely let them go... Eventually, they'll have to knock on your door for the sake of their children... Never leave your home, the place you love... They will understand their selfishness and mistakes...
let them go...thats ur home..
Just let them go! Their choice, Shame on your Son! ENJOY YOUR FREEDOM!
We’re happy you shared your story with us, Greta! Here are some tips that we hope can be useful.
Take the choice, throw them out, live with a like soul or a couple of cats. Any children raised by your son and daughter in law will be twisted and no use to you, or society. Your life and well-being are the most important. Why have they not found a home of their own? Get rid of the leaches incidentally have they paid anything towards the upkeep of the house?
Do they purchase food?
Initiate a calm conversation with your son and Meredith, emphasizing your love for them and your desire to maintain a close relationship with your grandkids.
Acknowledge their need for privacy as a growing family but also express your attachment to your home of 43 years. Explore potential compromises such as rearranging living spaces or setting boundaries to ensure everyone's needs are met without sacrificing family ties.
Seek legal advice to understand your rights as a homeowner, particularly regarding eviction laws and property ownership. Having a clear understanding of the legal framework can empower you to make informed decisions and protect your interests.
Consider discussing potential legal options with your son and Meredith to find a resolution that respects both parties' rights and wishes.
Suggest attending family counseling or mediation sessions facilitated by a neutral third party. These sessions can provide a safe space for each family member to express their concerns, frustrations, and needs while working towards a mutually acceptable solution.
A trained mediator can help navigate emotional tensions and facilitate productive communication, fostering understanding and compromise among all parties involved.
While maintaining your independence and autonomy is important, consider exploring alternative living arrangements that meet your needs while allowing your son and his family the space they require.
Look into assisted living communities or senior housing options that offer a supportive environment for older adults while still enabling regular visits and involvement with your grandchildren. Emphasize to your son and Meredith that your decision is motivated by a desire to preserve family harmony and ensure everyone's well-being.
Continuing the discussion about mothers-in-law living with their children's families, Nessa invited her mom to move in with her and her husband following her father's passing. Initially hesitant, her husband eventually consented with the condition that Nessa's mother pays them rent. This request infuriated Nessa, prompting her to seek advice from us.
They have a lot of nerve asking the mom to move out of the house that she paid for. If they need more space, go buy their own home.
Do not leave your home, do not move into assisted living and leave your home as this article suggests! The very first thing you should do is determine what you want in life whether that is staying in your home or moving. If you decide to move out, contact a real estate professional and sell it to find your own place and not depend upon anyone else to move you somewhere that you may not want to be. You may need a lawyer just so you understand your legal rights not for conflict and you may need a counselor to help you learn skills to navigate this and navigate your emotions.
Tell them to go. They were only provided with temporary accommodation and if it isn't big enough for them they must find somewhere else. The threat of not seeing the grandchildren is probably a threat, but get them on your side with bribery if necessary. If your son couldn't see how much he was imposing on your privacy from the start it's time you opened them for him. Now.
Ungrateful entitled brats. They have a lot of nerve. And the suggestion in the article that they look into alternative living arrangements by putting her in assisted living is total BS. They show no gratitude and are incredibly disrespectful. They should be ashamed
KICK THEM OUT. They have no right to kick YOU out of YOUR home that you INVITED them to stay in. Give THEM an ultimatum; either get out within a set time (before baby is born so they can't guilt trip you into letting them stay longer), or get dragged out by police for trespassing. They are trying to con you for a free house, DO NOT let them if you don't want to leave!
