A mother's deepest sorrow is feeling like she's no longer fully embraced in her child's life. Greta is completely devastated after her son and daughter-in-law asked her to move out, saying there's no more room for her. Adding to her pain is the fact that it's Greta's own house they're living in. She sent us her story and asked for advice.
If they were secretly uncomfortable they should have moved out already. Why should you leave your home? They had 4 years to save up let them go find a place. And if they are willing to threaten you, you know NEiITHER have your interests at heart. Cut them loose and ket them go.. it is them who are jeopardizing theirs kids future.
Not legal. They can NOT turn you out of your home or even their home if you've been living there. THEY need to get their own place. Stand tough.
Poor Greta. She might say, "no grandkids, then no inheritance - calling my lawyer tomorrow and making a video statement that it all goes to charity, even the house." That would work on these entitled children, since they seem selfish and greedy.
We’re happy you shared your story with us, Greta! Here are some tips that we hope can be useful.
Sell your home to them for market value and move across the country. If your grandchildren are being held over your head this time the pattern will continue. Take control and either have them move out or move on your terms. And definately across country.
Initiate a calm conversation with your son and Meredith, emphasizing your love for them and your desire to maintain a close relationship with your grandkids.
Acknowledge their need for privacy as a growing family but also express your attachment to your home of 43 years. Explore potential compromises such as rearranging living spaces or setting boundaries to ensure everyone's needs are met without sacrificing family ties.
Seek legal advice to understand your rights as a homeowner, particularly regarding eviction laws and property ownership. Having a clear understanding of the legal framework can empower you to make informed decisions and protect your interests.
Consider discussing potential legal options with your son and Meredith to find a resolution that respects both parties' rights and wishes.
Suggest attending family counseling or mediation sessions facilitated by a neutral third party. These sessions can provide a safe space for each family member to express their concerns, frustrations, and needs while working towards a mutually acceptable solution.
A trained mediator can help navigate emotional tensions and facilitate productive communication, fostering understanding and compromise among all parties involved.
While maintaining your independence and autonomy is important, consider exploring alternative living arrangements that meet your needs while allowing your son and his family the space they require.
Look into assisted living communities or senior housing options that offer a supportive environment for older adults while still enabling regular visits and involvement with your grandchildren. Emphasize to your son and Meredith that your decision is motivated by a desire to preserve family harmony and ensure everyone's well-being.
Continuing the discussion about mothers-in-law living with their children's families, Nessa invited her mom to move in with her and her husband following her father's passing. Initially hesitant, her husband eventually consented with the condition that Nessa's mother pays them rent. This request infuriated Nessa, prompting her to seek advice from us.
They have a lot of nerve asking the mom to move out of the house that she paid for. If they need more space, go buy their own home.
Do not leave your home, do not move into assisted living and leave your home as this article suggests! The very first thing you should do is determine what you want in life whether that is staying in your home or moving. If you decide to move out, contact a real estate professional and sell it to find your own place and not depend upon anyone else to move you somewhere that you may not want to be. You may need a lawyer just so you understand your legal rights not for conflict and you may need a counselor to help you learn skills to navigate this and navigate your emotions.
Tell them to go. They were only provided with temporary accommodation and if it isn't big enough for them they must find somewhere else. The threat of not seeing the grandchildren is probably a threat, but get them on your side with bribery if necessary. If your son couldn't see how much he was imposing on your privacy from the start it's time you opened them for him. Now.
Ungrateful entitled brats. They have a lot of nerve. And the suggestion in the article that they look into alternative living arrangements by putting her in assisted living is total BS. They show no gratitude and are incredibly disrespectful. They should be ashamed
KICK THEM OUT. They have no right to kick YOU out of YOUR home that you INVITED them to stay in. Give THEM an ultimatum; either get out within a set time (before baby is born so they can't guilt trip you into letting them stay longer), or get dragged out by police for trespassing. They are trying to con you for a free house, DO NOT let them if you don't want to leave!
