Brian you are ah. If you are taking your children for a celebration, keep them under control.
The Waitress Shamed Me for Tipping "Only 10%"—But I Turned the Tables
Tipping etiquette has always been a hot topic, especially when it comes to service that’s affected by noisy kids or stressful situations. While many people stick to the standard percentage, others believe tips should reflect both effort and attitude. In the age of social media, even small tipping decisions can spark big conversations.
One of our readers recently sent in a story that brought all of these elements together in one dramatic dinner outing.
Brian’s letter:


Hi Bright Side,
I took my wife and kids out for a nice birthday dinner. Our baby cried a lot, and my twins, who are 7 and very hyperactive, ran around and spilled some food.
We stayed there for almost two hours. When the bill finally came and the waitress saw my 10% tip, she bluntly said, “Don’t bring kids next time. We’re not a free daycare!”
But I made her regret it, because I had been broadcasting the whole spectacle live on social media. Since it was my wife’s birthday, she had started a live stream on her Instagram, and we were recording the dinner party. So when the waitress came over, the live stream was still on, and everyone saw how rude she was.
As soon as she noticed the phone and realized she’d been recorded, her face went pale, and she immediately started apologizing. She knew she could get into trouble if her manager saw how she spoke to customers—especially with the restaurant’s reputation at stake.
In an effort to make amends, she offered complimentary cake for all of us.
I felt some justice was served. But not everyone agreed. Some people took her side, saying I had no right to disturb other diners with loud children, and that I should’ve tipped 25% given the extra effort she put in for my kids.
Did I under-tip for what she did?
—Brian
Thanks for sharing your story, Brian! Here are 4 suggestions that might help if you find yourself in a similar situation next time.
Tip based on service, then address the behavior separately.
Although her final remark was inappropriate, your family’s visit was long and demanding. A higher tip would’ve acknowledged the effort she put in, even if her attitude slipped at the end.
If you wanted to address her rudeness, writing to management later would’ve sent a clearer, more professional message.
Choose a venue that fits the vibe of your family.
Going out with a baby and energetic twins isn’t easy, especially on a special occasion. For future celebrations, call ahead to see if the restaurant is family-friendly. Some places even have kid zones or early family hours.
In this case, a more accommodating setting could’ve made the experience smoother for everyone — including the staff and nearby diners.
Use humor or gratitude to ease the mood.
During the meal, when things got messy or loud, a brief light-hearted comment such as “We might need to leave a broom with the tip!” or a sincere “Thanks for bearing with us” can change how staff perceive the situation. It acknowledges the disruption without being defensive, and it invites empathy instead of frustration.
Handle the livestream with class.
You had the advantage of the moment being recorded, which put pressure on the waitress—but it also gave you a chance to show grace under fire. Saying something like “That was a bit harsh, but we all have bad days” on the livestream would have highlighted her comment while keeping the moral high ground.
That kind of reaction earns more lasting respect than using the footage to embarrass her.
Steph is another Bright Side reader who recently shared her story with us. She chose not to pay for her stepson’s education, believing it’s not her responsibility. You can read her story here.
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