13 Unexpected Facts About Victorian Balls That You Can’t Find in Movies

We most often judge the past through films and fiction. But it is important to remember that their creators don’t always show the whole truth about the life of those epochs. We see only a glossy, romanticized shell of the past. But there are also nuances, strange traditions and seemingly incomprehensible rules that we sometimes don’t even realize.

The balls cost a pretty penny.

All the rooms for the ball had to be well lit. Before the advent of gas lamps, candles were used, and not ordinary candles, but those made of beeswax. They cost a lot of money — more than the food and drinks prepared for the party.

Hundreds of candles worked like a few 25-watt bulbs. Therefore, wall candelabras were decorated with crystal pendants and mirrors were hung behind them. Otherwise, the rooms looked gloomy. And the candle flames burned oxygen mercilessly, carbon dioxide was released, and without proper ventilation, the guests became dizzy.

Preparing the house is not an easy endeavor.

Preparing for a ball was not an easy task. The hostess was usually in charge of the organization. If there were no suitable rooms in the house, it was possible to rent a hall in another building. Not all mansions had special ballrooms, so the hosts chose the largest room, which was freed from unnecessary furniture.

The walls were draped with fabrics, and the room was decorated with plants and flowers. If there were dark drapes hanging on the windows, they were replaced with light ones. The pale yellow color was considered the ideal shade to decorate a dance hall. Sometimes there were not enough chairs in the house, on which the guests could sit to rest between dances. In this case, the furniture was rented.

It was necessary to control the guests.

At Victorian balls, hosts often invited more guests than their ballrooms could accommodate. This was done with the expectation that some of those invitees would simply not show up.

This cunning technique created the feeling that the reception was successful, because there were really a lot of people in the rooms. A ball was considered big if it was attended by approximately a hundred people. And a reception with less than 50 guests was modestly called a “dance.”

They had to think all things through.

In addition to the ballroom, there should have been separate men’s and women’s dressing rooms. There the guests left their outer garments. In addition, in the room intended for ladies, there were usually 2 maids on duty, who sewed torn clothes, corrected hairstyles and helped with other possible troubles. The wardrobe was usually placed on the first floor, so that the ladies didn’t have to run up and down the stairs.

It was also necessary to choose a room for more delicate needs. In the early 19th century, not all houses were equipped with a sewage system, so night pots and a maid, who was supposed to help the ladies cope with this process without affecting their outfits, were placed in a suitable room.

Pots were also placed in other strategic areas throughout the house, such as behind screens and in dark corners. If the need caught a guest by surprise during a meal, they could get up from the table and hide behind the curtains. And some young ladies came to the ball with their own bourdaloues and carried pots in their purses.

If there was no toilet nearby, women were helped by pockets. On women’s dresses, they were always quite deep, which allowed to discreetly massage the stomach and bladder and relieve the condition. There is a theory that to avoid peeing, women held on to the folds of fabric inside the dress and thus restrained themselves.

The guests were expected to behave perfectly.

In the Victorian era, young ladies couldn’t refuse a man if he asked them to dance. This response could not only be seen as disrespectful to the man, but could also offend the organizers of the event. This seemed as if the mistress of the house invited unworthy guests with whom decent ladies didn’t want to spend time.

But what to do if you still don’t want to dance with an intrusive suitor? You could say that all the places for men who wanted to dance with a lady were already taken. For this purpose, there were special cards where women wrote down the names of those with whom they would dance throughout the ball.

Not all dances were considered decent.

Despite the fact that now in modern society there are no stereotypes about dancing, in the Victorian era the choice of dances was approached with special strictness. Those times were dominated by strict morals, and the dances had to reflect the spirit of morality and modesty.

Everything was permissible, except the waltz. That was the height of indecency. It was strictly forbidden, partners stood too close to each other, there was a lot of body contact in the dance, and spins, during which the gentleman lifted an unmarried girl in his arms, could damage her pure reputation.

The hostess had to stand at the door for hours.

The hostess was obliged to welcome all the ball guests. So, she had to stay at the door until dinner, or until all the guests had arrived. Usually there was nothing difficult about it.

Difficulties arose only when a gentleman unknown to the lady appeared on the doorstep, invited to the party by her husband or one of her sons. The hostess couldn’t address this guest without proper introduction. Therefore, the husband or son always had to hang around. Daughters, on the other hand, were allowed to enjoy the fun in the ballroom.

Fans were used to not only cope with the heat.

A fan was an important part of every young lady’s ball attire. Because of the many candles and crowds in the ballroom, it quickly became hot and stuffy. So, this accessory was simply necessary.

It not only saved the ladies from fainting, but also helped to communicate with admirers. In the 19th century, ladies couldn’t openly express their feelings, especially in the presence of other members of society. Therefore, they used a secret language.

If a lady held a fan in her left hand and waved it weakly, it meant that she wanted to get acquainted with the gentleman to whom the accessory was directed. When the fan was pressed to the forehead, it was a signal that someone was watching the couple. To express disgust and hatred for the interlocutor, the lady extended the fan through her clenched hand. If she waved the fan slowly, it meant that the woman was married.

A simple walk through the ballroom was a difficult task.

Ballroom etiquette was quite strict. And not only for ladies, who couldn’t take a step without being accompanied by another woman. In conditions like this, even a walk through the ballroom or a visit to the dressing room was a real challenge.

Men, too, were burdened with the need to observe many rules. A gentleman who was tired after dancing couldn’t sit down on a chair if there was a lady next to it who he didn’t know. And most importantly, he couldn’t stay too long at the ball. Otherwise, the rumor would spread that he was unpopular and rarely invited.

Men had the most responsibilities when the ball was organized by their wives, mothers, or close relatives. In this case, a gentleman had to make sure that all the ladies were provided with partners for dancing. And if there were not enough male dancers, the man had to dance with all these ladies himself, including elderly ladies.

All the ladies were assigned numbers.

One of the most important figures at the feast was the Dancing Master. It was he who made sure that the rules were followed during the dancing, announced the dinner and was responsible for all sorts of organizational matters.

Before the start of the ball, the Master met the guests at the doors of the hall and gave cards with numbers to all the ladies. An exception was made only for nobles. The young lady had to pin or tie the sheet in a visible place. The number meant what place the couple should take during the performance of the dance.

Ladies wore the number throughout the ball, because without it, they couldn’t dance. If someone lost it, they had to go to the Master for a replacement. Before the dance began, couples went into the circle one by one when their numbers were announced. If someone missed their appearance or was late, they had to take the last place.

A woman’s hair could tell you almost everything about her.

In preparation for a ball, ladies paid a lot of attention not only to their outfits, but also to their hairstyles. To make their hair lush, they decorated it with “rats.” This was the name of strands that maids collected from the lady’s comb and rolled into homemade chignons. “Rats” matched the color of the hair and therefore didn’t stand out against the rest of the hair.

Shiny powder was applied to the hair. It was made of crushed gold or silver leaf. Only rich ladies could afford such mixtures. There were also cheap analogs, but they made the hairstyle look sloppy and the strands looked dirty.

Special attention was paid to various jewelry. Ladies wove natural and artificial flowers, ribbons and jewelry into their hair.

And by the intricacy of the hairstyle, it was easy to distinguish a married lady from an unmarried one. The former could afford more complex designs, generously decorated with jewelry and feathers. Young ladies were characterized by modesty. They had to use only flowers.

Gloves were a compulsory item of the outfit.

In the 19th century, gloves were considered an essential part of a lady’s outfit. They were specially chosen a size smaller so that they would fit snugly, emphasizing thin and graceful hands. The length of gloves varied depending on fashion trends.

To appear at a ball with bare hands was considered extremely indecent. Gloves had to be exclusively white or soft pink in color. This accessory was also considered a very intimate attribute. It is known that Queen Victoria was extremely embarrassed when she had to lend her own gloves to her sister.

In addition, with the help of gloves, ladies could transmit secret signs to suitors. For example, to declare her love, a girl could drop both gloves and the message would become obvious.

Attending balls was hardly just an entertainment.

In fact, it required a great deal of health to attend a ball. Balls started at around 9 p.m. and ended at dawn. The guests were also fed quite late. Therefore, those who didn’t have time or couldn’t have dinner before the ball, were hungry until 1 o’clock in the morning.

The dresses were quite voluminous, and dancing in a crowded room was probably difficult. Also, for the sake of beauty, ladies resorted to various tricks. These included putting leeches behind their ears to achieve a pale complexion.

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