I Refused to Invite My Stepdaughter to Our Wedding

Weddings are meant to bring joy, not tear families apart. But what happens when someone in the family doesn’t want the wedding to happen at all? One bride-to-be thought the hardest part of wedding planning would be picking a dress, until her 12-year-old stepdaughter started acting out. It started with moody silence... then escalated. First, a family photo was found with the bride cut out. Then, her wedding shoes mysteriously disappeared. When she finally set a boundary, her husband’s reaction left her rethinking everything.

Am I wrong for banning my stepdaughter from our wedding?

I never thought I’d be that woman who’s beefing with her stepkid. But here I am.

When I first met Lily (she’s 12 now, was 10 when I came into the picture), things were chill. She was shy but polite. I never tried to be her mom. I just tried to be kind, consistent, and someone she could trust.

Everything changed the second we told her we were getting married.

She shut down at first. Gave me the cold shoulder, ignored me, barely said a word. Then came the sass. Eye rolls. Door slams. Snarky little comments under her breath. Still, I told myself she was just adjusting. It’s hard for kids. I tried to be patient.

But last weekend she really crossed the line.

I found a photo of me, her, and her dad from our Disneyland trip, and my face had been cut out. Then my wedding shoes went missing. Found them tossed in the trash.

Later that night, I noticed my wedding dress had pins stuck in it. Like deep inside the fabric. Not ripped, just enough to mess it up. That was the last straw. I told my fiancé she’s not welcome at the wedding. I said it calmly but firmly. I had reached my limit.

And he says, “If she’s not there, then there’s no wedding.” I was stunned. He actually picked her over me, just like that.

I’d really appreciate any advice on how to handle this situation. How can I build a better relationship with my stepdaughter?

The next day, I come home and they’re sitting on the couch like nothing happened. She looks smug. He looks pissed. He tells me I’m overreacting. That “she’s just a kid” and “going through a lot.” Yeah? So am I.

I’m not evil. I know kids act out. But I’ve been patient and tried so hard. She’s literally trying to ruin my wedding. And somehow I’m the one being unreasonable?

I seriously don’t know what to do. Should I sit her down and talk? Should we get a therapist involved? Should I just walk away?

I love my fiancé, but I feel like I’m losing my mind here. Please tell me what you’d do in my place. I feel so alone.

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