Not legal. They can NOT turn you out of your home or even their home if you've been living there. THEY need to get their own place. Stand tough.
I’m Being Thrown Out of My Own House by My DIL
A mother's deepest sorrow is feeling like she's no longer fully embraced in her child's life. Greta is completely devastated after her son and daughter-in-law asked her to move out, saying there's no more room for her. Adding to her pain is the fact that it's Greta's own house they're living in. She sent us her story and asked for advice.
This is Greta’s letter:
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Tell them you are staying and offer to allow them to put an addition on the house for the Baby room if they pay for it! Never give up your home, never! Or tell them to add a Mother-in-Law apartment with a private entrance and let them take out the loan! If they say "NO" to both of them, tell them they will have to move out because you are not going anywhere, and stick to your guns!
We’re happy you shared your story with us, Greta! Here are some tips that we hope can be useful.
Open communication and compromise.
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Take him upon the offer to move his family out -They won't be able to afford a place as big as yours, and they will need help (with the kids, at the very least). Make sure to change the locks!
Initiate a calm conversation with your son and Meredith, emphasizing your love for them and your desire to maintain a close relationship with your grandkids.
Acknowledge their need for privacy as a growing family but also express your attachment to your home of 43 years. Explore potential compromises such as rearranging living spaces or setting boundaries to ensure everyone's needs are met without sacrificing family ties.
Legal consultation and protection.
Seek legal advice to understand your rights as a homeowner, particularly regarding eviction laws and property ownership. Having a clear understanding of the legal framework can empower you to make informed decisions and protect your interests.
Consider discussing potential legal options with your son and Meredith to find a resolution that respects both parties' rights and wishes.
Family counseling and mediation.
Suggest attending family counseling or mediation sessions facilitated by a neutral third party. These sessions can provide a safe space for each family member to express their concerns, frustrations, and needs while working towards a mutually acceptable solution.
A trained mediator can help navigate emotional tensions and facilitate productive communication, fostering understanding and compromise among all parties involved.
Exploring alternative living arrangements.
While maintaining your independence and autonomy is important, consider exploring alternative living arrangements that meet your needs while allowing your son and his family the space they require.
Look into assisted living communities or senior housing options that offer a supportive environment for older adults while still enabling regular visits and involvement with your grandchildren. Emphasize to your son and Meredith that your decision is motivated by a desire to preserve family harmony and ensure everyone's well-being.
Continuing the discussion about mothers-in-law living with their children's families, Nessa invited her mom to move in with her and her husband following her father's passing. Initially hesitant, her husband eventually consented with the condition that Nessa's mother pays them rent. This request infuriated Nessa, prompting her to seek advice from us.
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They have a lot of nerve asking the mom to move out of the house that she paid for. If they need more space, go buy their own home.
Do not leave your home, do not move into assisted living and leave your home as this article suggests! The very first thing you should do is determine what you want in life whether that is staying in your home or moving. If you decide to move out, contact a real estate professional and sell it to find your own place and not depend upon anyone else to move you somewhere that you may not want to be. You may need a lawyer just so you understand your legal rights not for conflict and you may need a counselor to help you learn skills to navigate this and navigate your emotions.
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