15 People Whose Snap Decisions Created the Kind of Happiness You Only See in Movies

A mother’s life got turned upside down when her daughter made a shocking announcement: she’s naming her baby after her cheating father. What follows is a powerful and infuriating family drama about a parent fighting for respect, love, and loyalty.
Dear Bright Side,
I’m writing to you because I feel completely broken. My ex-husband cheated on me for months, and I was so crushed that I divorced him and swore I’d never see him again. I thought my daughter, who is now an adult, would stand by me, but I was wrong. The other day, she told me the most heartbreaking thing I’ve heard since my divorce: she’s naming her baby after him (let’s call him David).
I couldn’t believe what I was hearing, so I asked her, “After everything he did to me, you still want to name her after him?” She looked confused, as if she didn’t understand the pain this would cause me. She told me his new wife had advised her to do it. She said that her new stepmother was right, and that even after all that he has done, her father is still a big part of her life. She said she wants her daughter to have that same connection.
I was absolutely floored. I’m her mother, and after all the betrayal I’ve been through, she still chose to side with him and his new wife. I feel completely abandoned and like my feelings don’t matter at all.
I feel justified, but wonder if I am I overreacting?
Thanks for any advice,
—Jasmine
Jasmine, it’s completely understandable that you feel so hurt and betrayed. Your feelings are not only valid but entirely justified. Your daughter’s decision is a direct result of the unbelievable betrayal you experienced, but it’s now a family conflict that’s deeply affecting your mother-daughter relationship.
This situation is not really about the name. It’s about your daughter’s struggle to reconcile the father she loves with the man who hurt you. She may see this as a way to have her father as a permanent part of her life, and unfortunately, she’s not fully considering how much this will hurt you.
What would you have done in this situation? Before you go, read the story of a grandmother whose DIL demanded she move out so she could move in. But the grandmother had other plans that no one expected.