My Ex’s New Wife Crossed the Line With My Kids—Here’s How I Shut Her Down

A loving mother of two boys was absolutely shocked and heartbroken by the way her ex’s new wife was treating her children. This woman was acting like she was the boys’ real mother, completely overstepping boundaries. No matter how many times she tried to be reasonable, to establish some basic respect, this entitled stepmom just wouldn’t listen.

And honestly? OP had had enough. She decided it was time to put her foot down, take charge, and remind this woman exactly who’s in charge when it comes to her kids. What happened next? Well, buckle up, because this story gets dramatic.

A desperate woman turned to Reddit and shared her emotional and dramatic story.

A 33-year-old mom of two recently turned to Reddit to share her wild and heart-wrenching story. It’s no surprise that she didn’t hold back on her emotions—because when it comes to our kids, what mom wouldn’t be passionate?

She had been dealing with a situation so unbelievable, that she just had to vent. And let’s just say, the internet felt every bit of her anger, heartbreak, and determination. And her story is a real rollercoaster.

The woman opened her post, saying, [edited by Bright Side], “I broke up with the father of my two kids 7 years ago. We weren’t married, but our breakup was amicable. Then he met his wife and here begins the nightmare. When we met, she called me the kids’ ’other mom’ implying she was their REAL mom. Then, this horrible lady started to cross the line on a regular basis.”

The ex’s new wife refused to back off, leaving the OP absolutely furious.

The OP mentioned that before her ex met his new wife, they both were “co-parenting on good terms for a couple of years.” Then, he got married and, as OP recalled, “It was clear she didn’t like me or the fact that ex and I could get along.” Things went too far when the entitled woman ignored all OP’s requests and acted as if she was non-existent.

The woman explained, [edited by Bright Side], “She would call my kids ’her boys’ and she said she was ’a boy mom’ whenever she was speaking to me. She pushed my ex back and ordered all communication about my kids go through her instead of him and when I refused she told me I didn’t have the right. But the last straw was when she started sending me photo updates whenever ex and her had a day out with the boys or if they did anything with them for a significant amount of time.”

The woman recalled, “She’d text me anywhere from three to five photos and say she had a great day with her husband and her children. I saved all of that because I didn’t like her attitude toward me.
When I tried talking to my ex about it, he told me she was trying really hard to be good to the boys and I needed to accept it and help her take on an active second mom role because they had trouble getting the boys bonded to her. I told him how she spoke to me wasn’t acceptable, and he said it came from insecurity, and he felt like I was a big enough person to know that.”

The situation quickly spiraled into full-blown drama, leaving OP with no choice but to take legal action against her ex’s new wife.

The OP wrote, “While we were talking she texted me saying I had no right to discuss her children with her husband. I showed ex, and he told me it was just her being insecure. But this was the breakdown in our co-parenting relationship because I didn’t appreciate the fact I was supposed to let his wife walk all over me and push me out eventually because it was clear she wanted that.”

“She’d get into a snit anytime she wasn’t given full parental access. Which means when she wasn’t able to add her family and friends to the school pickup list, and she wasn’t able to change which pediatrician they went to see. Ex never fought me too hard on that stuff but she sure as hell tried to.
She also hated that she couldn’t take them out of state to visit her relatives whenever she wanted. She introduced herself as the kids’ mom every single time we went to a PT conference, or she showed up at a medical appointment for our youngest, who has some health issues.”

The OP said, “We actually returned to court twice over this. Ex and her were told by the judge that she was not the mother of the children, and she did not have the right to impersonate me when it came to school or medical settings.”

The court was fully on mom’s side, and the stepmother was utterly furious.

The OP shared, “The judge also warned that the court would not take kindly to any alienation of the children. Ex’s wife tried to claim I was engaging in it and that the proof was in the kids not calling her mom even though they were very young when she became their mom. The judge asked for proof and claimed that wasn’t proof.”

“The second time there was a documented incident of her saying she was the kids’ real mom in front of them and the judge restricted certain things she can do. She can’t do drop-offs of the kids, and she can’t show up to appointments or school meetings that require both parents.”

A mom and a stepmom had a very memorable encounter recently, and the OP is questioning her own actions now.

The woman wrote, “That decision pissed her off immensely, but the good thing is she contacts me far less now and that works for me. I try to make something like co-parenting work with my ex and I focus on the kids. But apparently ex and her have been through some stuff.
She found out she can’t have biological children, and they were rejected for adoption. The boys have expressed that they don’t like her, which I knew a little about because ex requested permission for family therapy for them which I consented to because we already had the boys in individual therapy. But therapy is not helping to foster a closer relationship.”

“She came to me when they had the boys and info dumped all of this onto me at the front door to my house. I almost closed the door on her which she noticed but kept talking about her issues and then told me to have some compassion for her and at least hear her out and try to help since we’re both the mothers of the boys.
I rolled my eyes when she asked me for compassion. I didn’t even try to hide it. And I had no sympathy for her. None. I can’t say I’m upset that my kids don’t like her, seeing as I think it would open up the avenue for her to try harder to push me out and would possibly open them up to being alienated against me.”

“She got into another snit at the door and I told her to leave. She was insulting me, but I moved away from the door so I couldn’t hear her. She followed up with 10 texts that night and then my ex told me I owed his wife an apology for rolling my eyes at her.
Now maybe I was wrong to roll my eyes at her like that. Maybe I could have been more mature. So I’ll ask if I’m the bad person here.”

Reddit users rushed to the comments section to express their emotional opinions about the woman’s case.

One person wrote, “Probably the rejection comes from the times she’s been hit by contempt of court for not following the judge’s orders.”

Another user commented, “As an adopted person whose monstrous adopters were never stopped, checked, or caught: rejected for adoption is a BIG HONKING RED FLAG. If they’re financially secure enough to afford it, that’s weird.”

One more user wrote, “Your husbands new wife is a few fruit loops short of a full bowl of cereal. She is NOT playing with a full deck of cards. Her mental elevator stalls at the 4th floor.
How was she so rude and nasty towards you then basically begs you to get your kids to ’like her’ (whatever that means IDK I assume she wanted to be placated meaning you tell them to be nice and treat her the same way they do you) which is insane in itself.”

And another netizen said, “Pressure on stepchildren is never working. My ex-stepfather pressured us to call him ‘dad’. Otherwise, he wouldn’t react to us. That’s what we did because if we didn’t, he for real didn’t react and ignored us. Was hell. This is truly disgusting behavior for a stepparent.
And talking bad things about OP is not helpful. She should have held her tongue, back in the day and be nice. Maybe then the kids would have liked her.”

And here’s a story of a dad, whose new wife shouted at his son, her 10-year-old stepson, and told him to get out of a family picture. The woman felt that a little boy just didn’t belong to the family and didn’t want him on a photo together with her own kids. The dad turned to Reddit and told his story, sharing how he reacted to a dramatic turn of events.