My Mother-in-Law Called Me a ’Terrible Mother’ but My Husband Stayed Silent

It's always wonderful to see women supporting each other, whether they're close friends or complete strangers. In this story, one woman left a secret letter for her ex’s new girlfriend, offering a heads-up based on her own experiences with him. The new girlfriend was surprised and shared it on Reddit, where the community responded with overwhelming support. This simple act of solidarity shows how a small gesture can resonate deeply with people online.
She wrote, "My boyfriend, Steve, and I have been together for 2 years and have been living together for the past 8 months. While cleaning our apartment one day, I stumbled upon a hidden letter tucked away in the back of a cabinet. It read:
She continued her story, saying, "After reading the letter, I decided to show it to him to see how he’d react. The moment I handed it to him, he ripped it to pieces and told me not to believe a word of it, saying she was just crazy and unreliable. I told him that the fact he hadn’t found the letter in the 5 years since their breakup was a huge red flag for me. It clearly shows he’s never cleaned that spot, and he’s been slacking off on his cleaning duties even more since I moved in.
He insisted that this was just his ex trying to manipulate him and ruin his life again and that I was letting her succeed. We kept arguing along the same lines, and eventually, I decided to leave and spend the night at a friend’s place.
Honestly, Steve’s been a good boyfriend so far. He gets along with my family and surprises me with gifts and flowers. He always tells me how much he loves me. He’s not wrong that the whole cleaning thing hasn’t been a big deal before. But the note made me realize that he’s been cleaning less and less lately. It got me thinking that we need to have a proper talk about this."
Then the woman explained: "He texted me afterward, apologizing that I felt I had to leave, but he said it was wrong of me to prioritize a note over our 2-year relationship and to just leave him and our pets like that. I'm really confused and don't know what to think or believe right now. I'm even considering reaching out to Natalia to hear her side of the story.
Steve thinks I should come back home and let it go, saying his past shouldn't affect our future. He made it sound like his ex was manipulative and petty throughout their relationship, but I'm not sure what to trust.
When we first moved in together 8 months ago, we split the cleaning duties 50/50. But since then, he's been doing less and less around the house. I have to remind him to do basic things like bringing his plates to the sink or taking out the trash. I never had to do this before. The dishes will sit there until I do them, and it's gotten so bad that he's even left food to mold on the plates."
"I'm not a confrontational person, so I'd just ask him to take care of things as they came up. But that letter made me think more deeply about it and try to have an honest discussion. I admit I didn’t feel he was listening when I brought it up," she added.
She continued, "I used the letter as a way to talk about the cleaning situation, but he got completely hung up on the fact that I was listening to his ex instead of him. He wouldn’t acknowledge what I felt was valid. He thinks I'm letting the letter give me a 'confirmation bias,' so now he believes that no matter what he says, I'll always think he's wrong.
I didn't leave him permanently. All of this happened just yesterday, and I only stayed at a friend’s place for one night because our conversation wasn't going anywhere, and he wouldn't let me sleep until I let it go. I'm planning to return today, but I wanted to get some advice and feedback before I do."
When trust gets broken in a relationship, it can cause a lot of emotional chaos, leaving people feeling confused and unsure about everything. In one case, a husband accidentally found out about his wife’s secret Google account, and it flipped his life upside down. You can read his story here.