$900.00, that is half a months rent. Choosy beggars should get another job, or maybe just ONE and pay for their kids party on their own!
I Refuse to Be My Sister’s ATM, Her Lack of Responsibility Isn’t My Problem

When Mara refused (for once) to pay, her sister didn’t take it well
Dear Bright Side,
We grew up poor. I clawed my way up and landed a great job in tech. My sister had kids young and never finished school. I’ve covered her rent, dental bills, and daycare in the past.
But this time, she crossed a line. She texted me: “I need $900 for Ava’s birthday party. We’re doing a princess thing.” I offered $200. My sister wrote back, “Don’t be stingy. It’s her dream party!” I still refused to pay.
Then she posted on Facebook: “Some people only care when it’s convenient. Smh.” I didn’t reply, but it’s been bugging me. My mom says I’m being selfish. Was I wrong to say no? Can you please help me out?
Sincerely,
Mara


Yes, Mara, this situation is tricky and could potentially lead to some tension within the family. However, with the right attitude, we at Bright Side believe there are a few solutions to help you out.
Stick to your $200 and don’t budge
- You already helped a lot and $900 is a big ask. You’re not wrong for setting a limit. Just be clear about what you can do without feeling guilty.


Mute or block her Facebook posts and don’t engage
- That “some people only care when it’s convenient” post is classic passive-aggressive. It’s designed to make you feel bad but doesn’t solve anything. Just ignore it and don’t respond. Social media is the worst place for real talk.
Don’t let your mom gaslight you
- If your mom calls you selfish, calmly lay out everything you’ve done so far: rent, bills, daycare. Remind her that helping is one thing, enabling bad money habits is another. If she can’t get past that, step back a bit.
Have a face-to-face conversation with your sister
- Texts are the worst place for this; tone gets lost, and fights blow up. Call or meet her and say something like, “I’m glad you want Ava’s birthday to be special, but I can’t justify dropping nearly a grand on this. I’ve helped a lot before and this feels excessive. I’m here for you, but I won’t fund unrealistic expectations.” She needs to hear you’re serious, not just “stingy.”
If she really wants a “dream party,” let her find other helpers
- Maybe tell her, “If you want a $900 princess party, go ask the rest of the family or friends to pitch in. I’m done being the sugar daddy for this.” Shift the burden elsewhere and watch if anyone else steps up.


Ask her if Ava would even know the party cost $900
- Spoiler: the kid just wants cake, balloons, and attention. This is your sister trying to flex, not for Ava, but for Facebook clout. Say it out loud. She needs to hear it.
Bottom line, you’re not a villain for saying no. Your money, your rules. Family love doesn’t mean financial slavery. Stand your ground and keep your peace. Here we have a very similar story to this one.
Comments
It's simple really if you can't afford to give your child the party YOU want give her the theme she wants within your budget. I was a single mum to and $900 for a party was well beyond my budget. Our parties were simple returns to a past life. We had a princess party. We told guests to come dressed up bought cheap crafts and glitter from the dollar store for activities. Decorated with streamers and balloons also bought from dollar stores, had dancing and musical games and made food within our budget. Aussie here so fairy bread, sausages sandwiches home-made cookies, part pies etc. when they went home they all received a gift bag with bubbles or small party favours and lollies or chocolate or similar again from the dollar store and made at home.
It was all simple and inexpensive and best of all kids loved it because it was fun and different and the birthday change of could help set up and plan.

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