I Refuse to Hand My Retirement Fund to My Daughter—I’m Not Responsible for Her Adult Failures

Until a person dies, any money and property belongs to them so if they want to spend it they can, I hope this woman took her daughter out of her will.

Something that others seems to have overlooked, the daughter isnt even in trouble, she wants the money for a house. Making her life easier not even a necessity. I have to say enjoy your retirement. The daughter isnt even alone, she has a husband who should be the one helping her now. I love my kids and i would walk in front of a train to save them front harm but they would never ask me to give up my retirement.

Don't sell your house. Instead just go on small trips when you can. You need your house for some day when you can't care for yourself. You could sell it then and get into a retirement apartment where people take care of you. Your daughter does not seem like she will take care of you. Have a better plan fur when that time comes for yourself.

You are obligated to care for your child until they graduate from high school. If you can, you should help until they finish college /trade school. If your daughter is married and working a professional job then she is a grown adult. You are not obligated to give her anything else and no one wants to give gifts to someone that demands them.

My 3 adult kids would NEVER demand money from me! They've never even asked us for money. Ever. My daughter and her spouse rented a tiny studio for 5 years, never went to a movie, only went out to eat once a year, and went without a car so they could buy a small fixer upper. Our money is ours. Theirs is theirs. The best gift a parent can give their children, is the gift of self-reliance. We have lived a frugal life and sacrificed. We have saved enough money so our kids won't have to financially support us as we age. The woman should do as she pleases with HER money. Our kids all live near us and we spend time with them often. Our older grandkids are teens and their parents are also teaching them to be self-reliant. Too many entitled young people these days.

Change your phone number, sell the house and enjoy your retirement.

You do you boo, but I'm not leaving my babies without a helping hand. I love them and could never imagine a world where I want them to go through half the trials and tribulations I did, nope not happening. I will be leaving them everything - if I want to travel at that age then I better get saving from now. I brought them in to the world, do I have to make life easier for them - no but as their mama i want to???? This lady sounds like them people that leave their house to the church to spite their kids

Wow. You are more patient than me. I would have hung up the phone.

Sorry but in our society the old steal from and burden the youth. Thats capitalism and its gross...I side with the children...yes, the older generations absolutely owe the younger generations. May these younger generations collapse capitalism by not having children and divesting from the system. May they break these cycles of theft and shift towards the future ones. May we have actual elders again rather than these self centered, wounded children in old people body bags, aka elderly. May we all stop being thieves, stop burdening our youth and vulnerable bodies. May the people of wisdom, of seven generations strategies, of ancient rooted technologies and community culture become the leaders of a deeply traumatized, immature, greedy, unwise society. May we all be held accountable for the harms we caused.

You are 67 years old, not incapacitated, not deceased, and not required to live your life as a savings account for your daughters future convenience.
You are entitled to live your life and spend your money. Your daughter is not entitled to either.

I think you have helped her too much and now expects more. Nobody owes you anything the sooner she learns that the better. If her husband is involved ask him how much his parents are giving him. Don't feel bad for taking care of yourself. Sounds like you have already given her too much. If she doesn't understand that is her problem not yours. Her love shouldn't be conditional.

Your daughter deserves an inheritance that is what is she gets after you have died. And that is what is left. If you're lucky, you'll have spent it all, and there won't be anything to leave

Every individual situation is different! But I truly believe if you raised your children to the best of your ability and been there for them up to 18 or at least 23( college graduation age). Your donations or at your discretion. When is enough, enough? You don't want to be on your death bed worrying can they take care of themselves and where does it say a parent has to give up what's left of their lives for adults you have already made sacrifices for! You gave them opportunities! Let them be mad, not the first time probably won't be the last! You have been fair .. enjoy