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One of our readers opened up to us with a heartfelt story about finally setting boundaries with her family. After spending years as the “third parent” at home, she’s now choosing to step back—saying no to the caregiver role her parents always expected her to take on without question.
"I’m 35, only child. My parents always expected me to "step up"—not because they were struggling, but because they just didn’t want to. From age 7, I was cooking dinner, doing laundry, and handling things most kids don’t even think about.
They called it “teaching responsibility.” I call it free labor.
Now they’re in a financial mess—zero savings, living on fumes—and I’m supposed to rescue them. They’ve made it clear they think I owe them.
I don’t.
They raised me with the expectation that I’d one day pay them back for doing the bare minimum. Now they’re panicking, and I’m the bad guy for saying no?
Sorry. I’m not their plan B.
That’s when my dad said, “We should’ve never gone through with the pregnancy—at least then we wouldn’t be this disappointed.”
I’ve carried enough. It’s their turn."
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Parentification is a dynamic that occurs when a child takes on roles and responsibilities that are typically meant for adults within a family system.
Experts generally distinguish between two main types of parentification:
1. Instrumental Parentification
This involves the child being responsible for day-to-day practical tasks. These might include cooking meals, cleaning the house, managing household schedules, caring for younger siblings, or even overseeing bills and finances. In some families, especially those dealing with illness, addiction, or disability, children may also take on caregiving duties for a parent or guardian. Though these responsibilities may seem helpful on the surface, over time they can interfere with the child’s education, social development, and personal freedom.
2. Emotional Parentification
Here, the child becomes an emotional caretaker for one or both parents. They might be expected to listen to adult problems, offer advice, comfort a distressed parent, mediate conflicts between adults, or act as a substitute partner in emotional terms. This role is especially damaging because it blurs relational boundaries—the child learns to suppress their own feelings in order to meet the emotional needs of the parent.
Parentification can also be understood as either:
Adaptive: This type is short-term and usually emerges in response to a crisis, such as a family illness or financial hardship. While it’s still a burden, it can sometimes help a child develop empathy and problem-solving skills, especially if support is restored later.
Destructive: This form is chronic and becomes part of the family’s norm. The child is routinely expected to function like an adult, without acknowledgment, relief, or emotional support. Over time, destructive parentification can lead to feelings of guilt, anxiety, resentment, low self-worth, and difficulty forming healthy relationships in adulthood.
Parentification can be parent-focused (caring for a parent) or sibling-focused (taking care of siblings). It often arises due to parental illness, mental health issues, addiction, divorce, or financial stress.
When parentification is chronic, it can lead to long-term effects such as anxiety, depression, guilt, emotional dysregulation, poor boundaries, and relationship struggles in adulthood.
Warning signs in teens may include:
Constant over-responsibility
Anxiety or perfectionism
Isolation or emotional burnout
Physical symptoms like fatigue or headaches
It’s completely normal—and even healthy—for parents to share age-appropriate emotions with their children. Kids often sense when something’s wrong, and honest communication can help them feel more secure and less confused.
Similarly, having children help around the house or occasionally care for siblings can build confidence and a sense of responsibility. But this support should never come at the cost of their emotional well-being, education, or social life.
The key difference? In healthy families, children aren’t made to feel responsible for a parent’s happiness or the safety of the home. Parentification crosses the line when a child is expected to be a caregiver, instead of just being a child.
Sometimes, the relationship between a parent and child can be incredibly complex — and at times, painfully difficult.
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