Refused to take an hour call so now y’all gotta go in … seems about right … you didnt stand up for your co workers .. you instead ruined it for them.. wtg
I Refused to Take Video Calls on Weekends, Now HR Changed Their Policy

Balancing work and personal life has become harder than ever, especially when companies expect employees to be available around the clock. What may seem like a small refusal to work outside office hours can sometimes trigger big consequences at the workplace. Recently, one of our readers sent us a letter about experiencing this exact situation with HR.
Dear Bright Side,
I work in a design company. We recently took on a big project with a tight deadline, so we need to work more hours. HR told us, “We respect your weekends, so we’ll just ask you to do video calls instead of coming in.”
No one said a word. But I replied, “Sorry, my weekends are for family only. I can’t be doing work.” HR smiled politely. That’s when some of my colleagues started to agree with me.
The next day, everyone froze when HR sent us all an email. It said:
“Dear Colleagues,
As we move forward with an important project under tight deadlines, we ask for your full commitment over the coming months. To support this, we require your physical presence in the office on Saturdays and, if necessary, part-time on Sundays.
This temporary adjustment will help us meet our shared goals and demonstrate your dedication to delivering excellence as a team.
If you are unable to participate in weekend work, please inform us as soon as possible so that we can make the necessary arrangements.
Best regards,
HR / Management Team”
Now, everybody sees me as the villain because I am seen as the reason the company is dragging us in on weekends instead of just doing video calls.
Was I wrong to stand up for myself and my colleagues?
Laura

No, company is crossing boundaries. Everyone does not owe the company every day their week. If a company wants Saturday and Sunday from me then they give me two days off during the week.
Goes to show sometimes you have to take one or two for the team. You didn't want to budge now your sorta inclined to. Yep, you ruined it for all
There was everyone's opportunity to have week ends off. The email said to advise them if the weekends were an issue. If everyone responded by saying they could not work weekends, you would be the hero.
If it’s your intention to be liked at work by your colleagues, forget it. Sticking up for yourself doesn’t translate to them. They have mouths that obviously work. Tell them to direct their ire to HR, not to you. And their passive aggressive email tone is just that. Jobs are NOT a dime a dozen, so tread mindfully around this stance.
Plain and simple- What does your employment agreement/contract say about weekend work? Alternatively, I have straight face told an employer that "my family is way more important to me than this place will ever be".. Another thing that works is if EVERYONE says f*** you and no one shows up on weekends.
Maybe the company should have taken weekends off in to consideration when accepting a clients deadline. Employee is not another word for slave 🤷🏼♀️
All they see is money when taking in clients. The employees weight in very little. They should ask for more hours during the week and care to let people rejuvenate during the weekend and be fresh for Monday morning.
Are you paid weekly or monthly
How many days a month are you paid for?
Everyone will have their moment, so do the HR
That’s considered retaliation and I would be talking to an employment lawyer.
Inform HR that this doesn't change anything. You still won't be working weekends.
I hate it when your place of employment does not understand that you value your family time
Jobs are a dime a dozen I would have told the company to enjoy their weekends without me because I would be looking for another job immediately and still knowing what my priorities are and keeping them straight
Why have none of you came forward after the email and said no? Remember the next job is around the bend. Besides they can't afford to fire everybody.
I wonder what the client would think?
Depending on if you are management or not and the stipulations of your employment when you took the job, you messed yourself up. Sorry but all these folks saying threatened to quit and other foolishness. Best thing is to start looking for another job cause you are now on HR radar. Most every job I know of at times requires working extra days from time to time. Right now the market is so full with folks looking for work that most of everyone is easily replaceable. To answer your questions, yes you are to blame opening your mouth.
Check you state's labor laws, most have law's stating how many day's you must have off per week. If your state doesn't have any and follow just federal employment laws check those! Labor law's are meant to keep employees from working 7 days a week. Your already working 5 days a week working 7 should and could be against the law.
Federal employment law (if US). Doesn't have any laws against how many days worked a week
Tell everyone I the company that everyone and i mean everyone to write up a resignation letter stating that given the commitments of family matters outside of the company during weekends we are unable to commit to what they need and they can either accept the letters or change there policy towards the weekend work they can't meet the deadline if noone works there employees have more power together then as hr carry on they will go back to video calls and noone has to come in there flexing there muscle that's all time to bite back
Inform them that you are " unable to participate in weekend work" as they asked you to.
And if that becomes a threat on their part....we'll I'd be talking to labor lawyers NOW
At will slavery at its finest. Gotta love Corp
A job is not slavery. Let's not let ppl think slavery was employment now.... human bodies were considered property....
Ah yes, saying do as I say because I say it. All the while handing you a joke of a check. Pretty damn close to slavery. Then having people who say pay me or be homeless, pushes that narrative a lot more.
Yeah, slavery is more humane. If you're a slave, you're an investment. You'll be worked hard, but not to death, because it would cost a lot of money to replace you. As an employee, your employer would work you to death if it was legal, because you're nothing more than a subscription to them, and you can easily be replaced for no more cost than just paying your subscription fee (salary or wages) to someone else instead of you after you've died.
This! I agree! I’m retired military and was on salary so they could work us all hard (it should be though it’s the military, lol!) but if I was hourly I’d be getting paid overtime (which they HAVE to pay or they would be breaking federal laws) but these snowflakes nowadays want high pay without all the work and when a job does this they call it slavery, SMH!!!!
Slavery is was forced labor giving u enough resources to live. Don't see much difference. May b worse besides getting beat considering some people work 80+ hours a week to survive
Start applying elsewhere.
No. There is life after 5pm
Thank you for sharing your story, Laura. What you’re facing isn’t just about weekend work — it’s about how one honest refusal spiraled into stricter demands for the entire team, leaving you singled out as the “cause.”
Here is our advice to you.
Reframe Yourself as a Catalyst, Not the Villain.

Everyone needs to stuck to their guns. If everyone refuses to go on in weekends, HR will have to deal with it. They should have gone about it completely differently and ASKED if anyone was willing to help get the project over the line (and be duely compensated). You get more bees with honey than venom
Your colleagues blame you for the stricter rules, but in reality, HR used your refusal as an excuse to tighten control.
Action: Gently remind your teammates that one employee’s comment doesn’t dictate company policy. Say something like, “I only spoke up for myself. Management decided to escalate — that’s on them, not me.” This shifts the focus back where it belongs.
Document the Chain of Events Clearly.

Time to start working to rule. No early or late stay backs overtime on weekdays either. Completely no show for weekends. Management need to hire more staff, not steal free labour/wages from existing staff. This sounds like a nasty loyalty exercise from someone paid 5 times your salary. Start looking for another job because this one sounds like the beginning of a ego driven train wreck.
Right now, it looks like you triggered the policy, but the truth is that HR made the decision.
Action: Write down the original exchange and save the follow-up email. If resentment grows or if HR tries to penalize you, having proof of how things unfolded will protect you from being scapegoated.
Turn the Situation Into a Collective Discussion.

Maybe should be telling HR that maybe they need to learn how to learn time management.
Cause I bet hr won't be there on weekends.
Cause team means everyone from custodians. Mail clerk, secretary, to hr and jr/sr level management.
This is why society sucks today because people choose career/money over family.
Since others initially agreed with you but now blame you, they’re afraid of HR’s power more than your words.
Action: Suggest raising concerns as a group — perhaps by proposing flexible weekday hours instead of forced weekends. By framing it as a team proposal, you stop being “the lone complainer” and instead become the one who sparked a constructive alternative.
Protect Your Future Beyond This Company.
If your workplace punishes honesty and piles extra work onto employees under the guise of “team spirit,” it may not align with your long-term well-being.
Action: Quietly update your resume, keep an eye out for companies with healthier cultures, and use this job as a stepping stone. Sometimes the best response to unfair treatment is planning your exit strategically.
Tonia has also faced big tension at work after she refused a job promotion. This is the reason why.
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You forgot to mention the most important part. Check your labor laws. Many states in the United States make it illegal to work more than five days in a row. Those meetings, if mandatory, are work and need to be paid and included as time worked.
I have always stood by one fact.
You tell work when your are available. Not the other way around
Sorry, but I don't see the problem in just an hour or two of Zoom meeting. Why not do it, what's the big deal ? She's beiing a drama queen
What's up with y'all and the hr these days!!!
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