My DIL Turned My House Into a Free Restaurant, So I Gave Her a Reality Check

Grand mom it's your time you choose to use it as you see fit there get over it in time

What sort of parents are they that they don’t cook dinner for their kids but mooch off you for free meals.

Tell your rude ass son to learn respect then inform him his children will eat whatever you cook for them gluten free or not and if he and his demanding wife don't like it then THEY can cook and look after THEIR own children. Tell him you're his mother and their grandmother NOT a free babysitter service.

Since when did you get nominated as babysitter & cook? Nope you raised your kids you deserve me time. Enjoy yourself join a club, go for a walk. Don’t be bossed by your DIL. Have a stress free life.

Wait she doesn't cook but makes you cook and gives you a menu. Let them figure out a babysitter that will do all of that. I give it a few months before they are begging you to babysit again. Then tell them no.

And that is the problem with being accommodating, that is the least they expect. Tell your son that you are ok with spending time with your grandchildren, you just refuse to take any more crap from your DIL, while doing her a free favor. Now she can pay someone to take her crap...or he can.

You are not a doormat.

Tell your entitled son to hire a babysitter/nanny/cook.

They both needed a dose of reality

"She makes me cook..." "SHE MAKES ME COOK..." Why in the heck did you ever agree to become her doormat in the first place? And tell that henpecked ungrateful son of yours that, although you love seeing the kids, you've damned well earned the right to do nothing all day if that's what you choose.

You didn't say.... are you being paid for this service, and paid WELL, or is it just assumed you're there to serve them?

If your son and DIL want you to cook what's on the menu she provided you with I would tell her to provide the food needed to prepare them, reimburse you for the cost of you buying them. Given the fact she has a menu of what she expects you to make for them she can prepare the meals ahead of time. You may have the money now, but you need to think of your future finances. From the sounds of it, later on in your life when you'll need help, as entitled they are now, they will most likely tell you "f--- you, you're yoyo." Having grandkids over every day, and is costs you a lot; they're using you. If they ever want to use the kids as pawns and not allow you to see the kids most states have Grandparents rights. Stand your ground, stop letting them use you as a doormat, set new boundaries now. Having been in your shoes things will get worse from here if you don't. My son was loving and caring, and treated me with respect, but after marrying his wife he (she) turned (him) into an AH. Despite this, I took the higher road.

Turn it around on your son. Ask him why he thinks it's okay to treat his mother the way he treats you. Tell your spoiled, demanding son and DIL to either treat you with respect or find find other accommodations for their kids. And in the future tell DIL to bring over already prepared meals for her kids since she's obviously unhappy with how you cook.

Nah. You just proved your point. Amen, sister.

Oh hell no. These two parents need a swift kick into reality. You don't get to dictate what grandma cooks. Even if there is an allergy, if your kids need special food, YOU offer to provide it. This is doubly true when they are getting free childcare out of it. The entitlement of this is insane. Let them figure out other childcare for awhile. I guarantee they will be back. Hopefully with an adjusted attitude.

Your son and dil are entitled buttwipes. Who is going to care for them now?

Your son and his wife have a sense of entitlement and are extremely selfish. They should have been sending you prepared meals for their children or providing you with cash every week to cover your grocery costs. After all, they're getting free daycare from you. I'm not sure what the cost of after school daycare is nowadays, but when my son was in it in the 1990's, it was $7 a day ($35/ week) just for the daycare van to pick him up and keep him for about an hour and a half. He was given a cheap snack that probably didn't cost them 20 cents.

I'm sure that after school care is much more than $35 a week now. You have probably been saving your son and his wife over $400 a month. And that is not even counting the cost of all those meals you fix. The least they can do is reimburse you for the money you spend feeding their children.

Oh, and a little gratitude and respect for all that you do for their children would be a nice gesture to show their appreciation.

Utterly ridiculous! She's only hurting herself. You were kindly helping out that gap time between school and when she's done working and feeding them so they didn't have too, and they are mad? She owes you an apology and you owe them nothing. They can pay for after school care. I would find a hobby real quick for that time once they realize how they cutoff their nose to spite their face, and unfortunately you are no longer available..they can give the after-school program the menu, lol or they will have to pack all food for their children.

Your daughter in-law and son are ridiculous and entitled. Who yells at someone babysitting for free about take out they, themselves prefer. It's just as lame and entitled as anyone could possibly be.

You allowed this to go on, set some boundaries with them if they want to continue their free daycare w/meals

I'm not sure why your DIL and son decided to hold on to being mad at u. The restaurant u were ordering from was one they also frequent. If they want home cooked meals they should be preparing them at home and bringing them to u to warm up for the kids. As for the parents now withholding ur grandkids as punishment, I'm not sure from the tone of ur letter how upset(if at all)u are about that right now. Maybe just take a little vacation time while it lasts. U know they'll be asking u to resume babysitting again. When they do be sure to alter how you've previously been taken for granted and lay out ur new ground rules. Personally I believe grandparents should always visit with their grandkids on their own time when they want to. That way it's always a happy experience for everyone

Do they all live with you? If not, then HOW DO THEY KNOW WHAT YOU HAVE TO DO? I think what you did was inspired and leaves her with no excuse for treating you like crap. I don't know how you raised your son but I am willing to bet he wasn't such an AH before he married her. Does your DIL even provide the ingredients for the meals she expects YOU to cook for them? I am very aware of how hurtful it is to lose contact with your grandchildren but watching you be treated like the help will only make them think it's ok to treat people that way. The entitlement is unreal.

Thank them from relieving you of a job you didn't ask for. For free. They should have been, at the very least, been paying for the demanded food. When they ask you, which they will, to start again say sure. Only ony schedule. Which includes no cooking. If they're going to need a meal you'll provide it

Said to your son he is ingrates and forcing his wife choice to your life. Also how she falsely accuse you too. Say you will call lawyer if your DIL keep accusing you for something you didn't do. If you keep silence 🤐 then they might accuse and sue you latter. DON'T STAY SILENT, DEFEND YOURSELF !!