10 Plot Twists That Prove Life Can Get More Shocking Than Movies

Not everyone who is a parent is biologically related to you, but that doesn’t lessen the love; it just honors it more. This is the case with stepparents. Getting acceptance from stepchildren is often an uphill battle and a source of many stepfamily conflicts.
But what if the conflict is spousal, and you turn into your stepchild’s only protector? This is exactly the situation one of our readers, Mike, is facing. Scroll down to find his letter and the advice we felt would work best for his situation.
Dear Bright Side,
I never wanted kids. Then I met my wife and her little girl, and it was like pure love. I was smitten by both. I clicked with my stepdaughter instantly, and we are super close, so much so that I’ve been her dad in every way that counts.
Now, she’s a teenager into Goth fashion, something I’m cool with. Sometimes, her fashion choices are more emo, according to her, but either way, it’s her form of self-expression, and it does not matter to me one bit.
My wife hates it. She was always a girly girl and doesn’t like the dark purples and blacks that our daughter seems to favor. She kept criticizing her, and I tried to calm her down, but last week, she went overboard and hid all her stuff.
When she couldn’t find any of her things, my stepdaughter, who’s a tough cookie, broke down and cried buckets. I was very angry, so I confronted my wife. She looked me in the eye, and what she said next shocked me: “I know what’s good for MY daughter. You’re not even her dad!”
I walked out before I lost my temper. I have never been this hurt in my life, and frankly, I don’t know how to handle my wife. She’s never said anything like this to me, and we’ve always raised our daughter as a family, making all decisions together.
Honestly, I was angry enough that I lashed out with actions and took our daughter shopping, replacing all the stuff that my wife had hidden or whatever.
Now, there’s tension going on in the house right now. My stepdaughter isn’t talking to her mother, and I am not in the right mood to talk to my wife either, who is busy sulking. Could you help me figure out what I could do to put the house back in order, and also calm myself down?
Please help!
Mike Hollington
Hi Mike, thanks for trusting us with something so raw. We think it’s marvelous how you’ve stepped up in a huge way, and not just as a parent, but as someone who cares deeply about preserving your stepdaughter’s identity and free will. We also appreciate the turmoil you must be going through, and this is what we feel is healing for you and your family.
The crux of the matter isn’t so much fashion but about identity, respect, and belonging. Let’s first name the problems here.
We’d also like to emphasize, Mike, that when it comes to your stepdaughter, you are her dad. Not by blood, but by choice. That will always matter more.
Here’s another stepfamily conflict, this time between a mother and her stepdaughter.