This drama happens everywhere. She wouldn't say a word if her parents ask money and even fights with her husband and even make a social media drama saying they raised her. But when it comes to husband parents, all this reasoning comes.
My Husband Wants to Lend His Mom $2,500 — But Not Unless My Conditions Are Met
Standing up for your family’s financial situation requires one to put their foot down, hard. But our reader, Vanessa, ended up offending her mother-in-law after she added conditions to her mother-in-law’s request to borrow some money. To navigate this tricky situation and avoid further drama, she reached out to Bright Side for advice.
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Thank you, Vanessa, for trusting us with your story. Finances can often be a cause for conflict in many families — here’s some advice that we think might help.
Understand that your mother-in-law has a right to be offended.
You need to see where your husband and his mom are coming from. Your “conditions” feel like a burn to the mother-in-law who helped you out when you were in a tough financial crisis. Her kindness came with no strings attached, but now that the situation is reversed, yours has conditions, and that feels unfair to her.
You’re not wrong for trying to consider your family’s long-term stability, but your mother-in-law is part of that family too.
Do you have a reason to doubt her?


Do you have any reason to doubt that she’ll keep her word and pay you back or can you trust her? If you’re not comfortable with giving such a high amount, then you could lend an amount that you’re comfortable giving and let everyone know that’s how far you’re willing to give. Both you and your husband should be okay with the amount, and if not, then someone has to compromise.
Acknowledge her past help.
When discussing the situation, take the time to express your deep gratitude for the support your MIL provided in helping you buy your house. Make it clear that you recognize and appreciate the significant role she played in giving your family a stable home.
It’s important to emphasize that your conditions for the loan are not intended to dismiss or diminish her past generosity. Instead, they are meant to ensure that your family’s financial situation remains stable in the long run. Explain that these conditions are a way to protect both your household and her from future financial stress.
Consider other ways to generate an income.
Instead of keeping a tight hold on the money that’s already in the family, you could try helping the family’s finances by finding ways to generate more income into your home. Look into getting a job, starting a small business or try the many side hustling ideas that are developing this year.
You could even get your mother-in-law involved and help each other improve your financial situations so that neither of you find yourselves needing to borrow from anyone.
This is what some of our readers advised:
- FAMILY HELPS FAMILY; your MIL helped you when you needed it, and helping her out with a $2,500 loan is completely reasonable. This isn’t some distant second cousin with a gambling problem, for Pete’s sake ! This is your husband’s mother, and your “conditions” ARE insulting . You should GIVE her the money, but at the very least make it a loan with the understanding that she may never be able to pay it back. © Carrie Matteson / Bright Side
- Give her back what she gave you to help you buy a home. © Jacqueline Burse / Bright Side
- Did you repay her for the help she gave you? If no, then why the “conditions” at all? Why not get a job to help out your financial stability, even if it’s just temporary. © Angela Hannegan / Bright Side
- First the MIL should get paid back pretty selfish to take money from her interest free I might add and not give anything back. That 2500 should be a payment back to her. © Earl Beam / Bright Side
- Hello, your mil helped you buy a house and all she asked for was 2500. I’d help my mil no matter what. © Cynthia Hodges / Bright Side
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