My Daughter Refused to Carry on the Family Line, So I Took Away Her Inheritance

Stinky of you imo

It's your call, do what you wish. But understand, there will be consequences to your decision. You may never hear from nor see your daughter again. But if you doing what you think is right then go right ahead.

You can be right or you can be happy.

And if you pulled this crap on mevyou would never hear from me again.

You should do with your money whatever you want as anyone should be able to do. Listening to your brief letter it does not sound like your relationship with your daughter was volatile up until your began butting heads about turning her into a breeding cow. You should have heard and accepted her decision regarding children without judgment. That's how she feels now. People's situations change and so do how they see their futures. She may or may not see children in her future later. If I were you and your feelings about helping children of the family, if you want to see your money being spent that way in action while your alive set up some kind of scholarship application that is open to only your family members to apply for. I have a friend whose father was able to invest in Microsoft at the begining and he has done this for any members of his family and so many have benefitted and made their little families lives better for it. He loves watching their life stories progress. And that way your daughter can still benefit as well because of course scholarships come with certain stipulations that need to be maintained in order to continue reaping the benefits.

Just WOW! How did you become so mean hearted to your ONLY child!? Your love comes with terms which makes it NOT love but a way to control the child you profess to love. She would be better off without you.

I feel for you. Just because your view is different, because you make a stand you are now aware of the undercutrent. Family line is important.Otherwise what do we strive for , try to achieve gor? It goes deeper than the superficial responses of some.Being entitled is not always best. You decide, it is about more than money.

Yes, you're a horrible mother and one of the one's putting women back not forward. You were blessed to have a daughter and the way you destroyed your relationship with her was spectacular. you'd be lucky if she ever talks to you again. I'd be surprised if she hasn't disowned you already.

Yep. Your daughter is right and you have destroyed your relationship with her. In her eyes you are buying a womb.

It's one thing to live a child free life but when you mother makes it clear the money she's saved is for future generations, and you won't have kids but you want it anyways?? Take your hissy fit and shove it where the sun don't shine.

I too want money but I kinda have to work to get it. It's how it works. You dont just get shit for free.

You better think. Think about the consequences of that act. I knew before my parents passed that I was getting next to nothing for basically the same reason. So, when they needed 24/7 care, I helped my sibling who cares for them at home for the percentage of what I was getting. They were about 2 hours away from me and I worked a brutal schedule as a public servant, so save your criticism. We weren't a close family. In the end, they outlived their money. Oh well.

Yes

I read through the comments here and I'm shocked white people could vomit such bile! This is digital jungle justice! If she was here physically, y'all might have pounced on her what with all the hate pouring out of y'all mouths.
The lady has made a mistake and she is seeking clarity, having a rethink, so nobody is kind enough to see her plight and offer her genuine counsel?
She said that inheritance for Children's education has always been in her family, that's probably what he daughter is using for her 'continuous education' but her daughter doesn't want to pay it forward!
In my opinion, she should be gentle with her daughter, she wants to keep learning, but what is she going to do with all that 'education'? She might even change her mind in the long run, and decide to have children, or a child, who knows? Or even adopt.
Don't make hasty decisions just because the other person's goals doesn't align with yours even though it's salient.
Call your daughter back and restore her inheritance. Let her know you would be happy if she changes her mind and decides to have children later on, but it's her choice and decision to make. Continue to be a supportive mom to her. I believe your niece will understand and would want you to mend fences with your daughter.
Like you said, it's money which you probably would not even know how it's spent when you're gone.
Cheers mama.

Leave it to the neice... Your money your choice

It’s egomaniacal to constantly feel you need to keep the “line” going! Last statistic I read says more than half of women of childbearing age don’t want kids…so, The secret is out! Hold inheritance hostage to force someone to reproduce is just ridiculous. Think about it!

This is very dependent. Yes, we as parents have children and care for them. But as an adult, we cannot rely on our parents to leave us hard earned money to us to spend either. It is definitely wrong to cut your child out of your Will. The reason to cut your child out of your Will is disheartening. It feels like a selfish mother raised a selfish child situation.

The daughter seems to have started from the get go not wanting kids. Not she can't, but she doesn't want. And have been spending money on pursuing what makes her happy.
The mother really really wants her child to have a child and feels that her hard earned money should go towards a family member that would need it more.

If my mother told me she wants to leave her money to my cousin because she feels she needs more for her kids, I wouldn't oppose. If I do need her help financially, I would tell her and work out the middle ground. I wouldn't expect my mother to pay for my "endless education" as I hope my education would land me a career/ job that would pay more than enough to accommodate the lifestyle I want to live.

Wowwwwww did you really even need to ask complete strangers to tell you YOUR WRONG you may have destroyed your relationship with your only child what a stupid move

Did you mishandled this? DUH! Totally! Controlling much??? Where to begin..well for starters you lost a daughter! Hope digging your heals in was worth it.

Oh wow! You don't deserve a daughter, don't play the guilt card either when she cuts ties from you, you destroyed that relationship. You even stated yourself it's money you won't even see get spent, so why does it matter. I hope your daughter leaves you stranded and strapped for cash just like you did her.

Hopefully your niece will take care of you in your old age.

I read letters from several of you people that think having MORE CHILDREN in a world that doesn't take care of the ones in it, and tying any "INHERITANCE" to the birth of those children. You, lady, are ANOTHER poster child for sterilization. I know I use the term a lot but it fits anyone that does this. I hope your daughter leaves you alone and bitter in your own personal hell. Go buy someone else's child.

Hopefully she finishes cutting you out of her life. Since she's not giving you grandchildren she's got no reason to have a relationship with you. Remember this when you ask why you don't see/hear from her.

You dont deserve a daughter. You deserve this though