Jenna inherited her grandmother’s house and savings. Now, she’s facing pressure from her father and stepsiblings, who are demanding a share. To make things even more complicated, her dad reveals a hidden truth about her mother that turns everything Jenna thought she knew upside down.
If grandma wanted anyone else to have anything she would have included them in her will. Your dad had time to come to you when grandma was alive why wait until she's gone to give you some cockamamie story. It never fails, where money and property is involved trouble is right around. Keep your property and funds to yourself, you'll need it when you start your own legacy. To hell with what others say or think.
Hello, Bright Side,
My name is Jenna, and I am 19 years old. My mom left when I was born. My dad wasn’t in the picture either. He and my mom split up before I was born, and he never made too much effort to be a part of my life. He has another family now, and we don’t meet often.
I lived with my grandma, my father’s mom. She always told me that my mom didn’t want me and that she chose to leave me behind.
Grandma was always the only family I had. When she died, she left me her house and all her savings. Soon, my phone flooded with angry messages from my stepsiblings, demanding I split it all. I wasn’t going to listen to them until my dad came, and instead of asking for money, he confessed the real reason my mom left. It wasn’t because she didn’t want me. According to him, Grandma had interfered. She had convinced her that she wouldn’t be able to raise me alone, without a father. She told her that her whole life would be ruined and that there would be no future for her with a baby on her hands. She pressured her into stepping away so she could work and build her life, aka “for her own good.”
No NTA honour your Grandmother. She left everything to you for a reason let it be her legacy. The rest of the family will not help you if it was reversed.
Now my dad and his family are saying that grandma was manipulative and that I should “make things right” by sharing everything she left me.
I don’t know what to do. This whole situation hurts a lot. For years, I thought grandma was the kindest person and the only one who was always there for me. Turns out, I have been lied to my entire life.
I don’t even know who I can trust. If my mom didn’t want to leave me, why wouldn’t she even try to contact me my whole life? Why did my father decide to share this information now? And why should I give up on my inheritance because of it? What if he made it up just to show up as a caring person when in reality he doesn’t give a dam* about me? Please help because I feel so, so trapped under all this.
Your father is a liar. He's trying to get your inheritance.
How do you know your father didn't make it up? But, no matter what, if grandma wanted them to have something she'd have left it. Besides, why should people that weren't in her life profit from it? Just say no and block them.
You do what you feel is right. Your grandmother was there for you, she cared for you when no one else did.
Don't listen to your father. You're right, if it's true, then why say something now? He obviously didn't want to be there for you before, but now that you have your grandma's house and savings, he's concerned?
No ma'am. Don't do it. It's yours and you deserve it. Deep down, you know it's true.
P.S. The stepkids have nothing to do with it. In my opinion, they should stay out of it. I wish you the best, and hope it all works out for you.
It is your money if you give them a share you still have to pay the tax on all of you could end up with nothing. Grandma wanted you to have it not everyone else.
It's your money. Where was everyone else while you were growing up? It was given to you to take care of yourself.
There is the possibility that your grandmother did say that to your mother, but did it to protect you. If you're trying to convince a toxic person or addict to do something you have to frame it in a way that appeals to their self-centeredness. She may have known that you would have a terrible life with your mother and did what she had to to protect you from growing up in that. If your mother wasn't toxic she probably would have reached out at some point before now. Also, why didn't your dad raise you? If he thought your grandma was so bad and manipulative, why didn't he take any steps to protect you from being raised by someone like that? Honor her wishes and don't give them any money! Tell them you need to keep it to pay for therapy to get over this mind-fuck that he's causing lol.
True. If anything it sounds like your father is trying to manipulate you now. Don't listen to them .Keep your inheritance and keep your distance distance for your so call family. Your grandmother knew what she was doing when she left everything to you . Just take care of yourself the way your grandmother wanted you to
Hold the bus. So your grandmother was manipulative and that is why you have to split your inheritance with him and his other family? He knew where you were and never tried to have a relationship and your greedy steps did not either.
So this is my take. The inheritance is completely yours as well as the house. Neither he nor I know if your grandmother was manipulative, but the apple does not fall far from the tree. It sounds like grandmother was watching how it went down and decided to save what she could... YOU! Your Mother was not tough enough and your father dumped you both. Her estimation of the situation seems spot on. Your father left you there and paid no support. That meant he also deserted his Mother. Your Mother never tried to get you back or visit. The only person who did right by you was your grandmother. She disinherits your father and you became her daughter/granddaughter. So he and his family swoop in. Change your number or block their calls. Your grandmother's wishes are in that will. What a manipulative SOB. That money is the only future you have so be careful with it and good luck. If they sue you will win and he will have to pay the legal expenses. If your grandmother wanted to leave them anything, she would have.
Funny how they all have something to say now Grandma is gone. Do not let them take this from you.
Reflect on how your Gran treated you & other people. Ask her friends, they may have info that could help. Don't trust anyone that didn't want to know you before your Gran passed. Especially the sperm donor. Get an attorney to talk about planning for Your future, a fiduciary financial advisor, stock market hoing iffy so get advice from people you trust. SIGN NO DOCUMENTS WITHOUT YOUR ATTORNEY READING THEM. People suck and will try to con you out of your money. Not one penny until and unless they prove sincerity and are willing to make it a real loan they have to pay back. And then no one on any of your accounts, no loaning out your credit or debit cards, no spare house keys, get a security system, stay safe. Extra key could be with attorney, no friends even... and yes block the family...
Cut your toxic family off. I wouldn't be so quick to believe what dear old dad has to say. Money is a strong motivator to lie. You owe them nothing.
Your grandma loved and cared about you all your life. Don't believe these wicked people. If your mom wanted you she would have at least visited you. They're trying to trick you. Enjoy your house and money. Use it wisely and block the family.
Babes, BLOCK THEM All. If You live in the same area, rent out your house for a bit for passive income, go to a university, board there until they get the message. Oh and change your phone number and get restraining orders. If your grandma did not die suddenly, then she would have told about your Mom. THEY are jealous You got it all, while they got jack
Of course you know what to do. Hire an estate lawyer and have them communicate through your attorney. Block them on everything else. How can you believe anything your dad says? He only recently showed up with a story.
So where has mom been for 19 plus years? Did she visit, spend time with you buy you presents? As far as you father is concerned, stay away from him, he wasn't there so he forfeited anything he wants. Step siblings are being encouraged by their father. Do you have a close relationship with them?
NEVER EVER have I left a comment on anything I've ever read but I have too for this. If your grandmother wanted her son to have her money she would have left it to him. And EVEN IF your grandmother did suggest your mother not stick around...it was your mother's choice, she could have fought for you, also she had 19 years to get her s**t together. And your father could have stepped up to the plate, he could have raised you with the help of his mother. PLEASE PLEASE be like your father and mother THINK OF YOURSELF, life is hard enough, even more so when you have no family to help out. A little financial security won't hurt...
Couldn't have said that better!
I usually just read however I want to tell you, it does not matter what your father said because your mom could of been there with your GM raising you. Your father has been out of the picture as well so his opinion should not matter because you do not know him to trust his words. Now I'm not sure who he wants you to share with bit if it is his other kids who he was a part of their life, I would not share because they probably sent him to you!!! Long comment short. No do not share, depending on how much was left for you, I would probably give them just a couple of thousand depending on my relationship with them. But no relationship with them or if they treated you wrong iat anyway time dem Fu** em all
Don't give them ANYTHiNG. Bc if UmYou open that door and let them in, they will always expect more.
Where was your Dad all these years? Abide by your Grandma's wishes and enjoy the security she's left you.
So he waited until your grandmother died to tell you this? Waited until you were an adult and the grandmother couldn't defend herself? Where was the father before?? So stupid. I am sorry for your loss of your only mother and grandmother. Because the two parents that left you-- left you.
waited until grandma couldn't defend herself with the truth. dad's most likely lying about grandma
Yea it doesn't make sense. Grandmother told her she couldn't do it on her own but she would keep her & raise her on her own. Doesn't make sense at all
I'm so sorry for your family members breaching your sense of trust!! Money and inheritance has destroyed millions of families. Keep everything you inherited. Nobody else has a say or a vote. Do not trust your dad. It's a special kind of horrible when a parent does not feel obligated or deeply moved to love, care and protect their own child. He is shady. You're not alone.. my dad is a narcissistic loser too! I highly suggest finding a counselor that you click with, you need emotional support right now and someone who sees the situation with clarity. These feelings will fade, I promise! The trick is to love yourself, trust your instincts and suss out the people in your life who are truly honest and good to you. Once you start looking for signs of loyalty it will become second nature to know who to invite into your wonderful life. I am praying for you! Last of all please please don't take this family situation as a sign of your worth. This is not a you thing!!
Agree 100%
If your dad wanted to be a dad then he should've actually, been there. He wasn't your parent until you acquired an inheritance. Why would you even question all the love and devotion your grandma showed you. She didn't hesitate to be your full time parent. Your grandma even made sure you had money after she couldn't be there for you. Why would question her? The obvious answer is everyone is trying to manipulate you out of your inheritance, using different techniques. Your dad wasn't there for you, your mother wasn't there for you, your step siblings or stepmother's kids weren't involved in your life. How could even ask whether they deserve a dime? What part are you confused about? Because your grandmother left you an inheritance. Your maternal grandmother not at all related to your father or his wife, left her biological grandson an inheritance. You do not owe them a dime. In fact not a dime of that pertains to any of them. They all have their own grandparents. Your grandma is only your relative not theirs. Stop questioning her. Wake up, open your eyes. It shouldn't be confusing. Your grandma was your parent and devoted herself to you. The only people lying are talking trash about about someone that can't defend themselves and your actually worried they should get her money. Your grandma, your relative, your inheritance. Period.
I agree she shouldn't give them sh!t but u are wrong. The grandma is their family also. She's the dads mom so is the grandmother to all his children
Dad is a snake in the grass. Be careful, very careful, don't trust. He left you too and now he's back...why?? Because of your inheritance. I'd also recommend getting a lawyer
throw dad and his kids out of your life a true nest of snakes
Dad is manipulating you. Grandma is who you thought she was..kind and loving..don't fall for it
Jenna, your father is trying to gaslight you into giving up your inheritance. If he wasn't in your life until you came into your inheritance, blow him off. If your grandmother did what she is accused of (highly doubtful since no one challenged her, ever), think of your inheritance as hazardous duty pay.
Either way, hire an attorney who can make sure your assets are protected.
So the mother wouldn't be able to do it alone so she left her daughter to her grandmother to do it alone. There is no logic in this clear lie
Maybe she left everything to you, so that no one can do to you what she did to your mother!
So you believe her father over a woman was kind and cared for her? Get real.
You have no idea he's telling the truth
I think dad is lying about her mother and grandma
Not proof, just word of a manipulative father. Do not give up any of your inheritance.
Hi, Jenna,
We are really sorry you’re going through this difficult situation. It’s understandable that you feel trapped and confused, especially with the new information about your mother and grandmother.
Here are some thoughts to help you navigate this:
His timing—now, after your grandmother’s death—could suggest he has a specific goal, especially since he didn’t mention this before. Consider reaching out to someone else who was close to your mom or grandma, like a family friend, to get a clearer picture of the past. If that’s not possible, think about what your mom’s actions and the available facts really tell you.
Instead of focusing on the story he told you, observe his actions now—whether they align with his words. Does he show genuine concern for you, or does it feel like he’s manipulating the situation for his benefit? To be honest, the pressure to “make things right” seems more like an emotional manipulation than a fair request.
The inheritance was given to you by your grandmother, who chose to leave it to you, no matter the reasons. Whether your mother left you because she wanted it or because she was manipulated into it doesn’t change the fact that your grandmother’s wishes were to pass on her estate to you. The other family members, like your stepsiblings, may feel entitled, but it’s important to remember that inheritance isn’t about fairness in the traditional sense; it’s about the choices the deceased made. You have every right to keep what she left for you without feeling pressured to divide it based on the idea that your grandmother was manipulative.
This situation is complicated, but you have every right to protect what was left to you. Especially if you have no one else you can rely on. Be cautious about who you trust and take the time to understand what feels right for you, not anyone else.
Take care,
Bright Side
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Jenna, you always believed your was kind because she was. She loved you and wanted you to have the house and money. Your father is only telling you this because he knows you're grieving and he can manipulate you easier at your lowest point. Keep what she left you, including your memories and distance yourself from those who only want to take from you and hurt you.
If grandma wanted him, her son, to have anything she would have left him in the will. But it's obvious that he wasn't there for you either that's why she left it all to you. Don't fall for his crap, bump all them and live your best life as your grandma intended for you.
Check all documents to make sure there's no one else who may be entitled to any part of the inheritance or house. Seek legal counsel to protect yourself. Change your phone number or block it. Try not to be confused and enjoy your life.
I don't know if the young lady will see this, but...
Even if what your father claims is true, HE left you & your mother prior to you being born. Then, when your mother left, HE chose to stay out of your life, while creating a new family without you. HE left it to your grandmother to raise you & is only contacting you now because he wants part of your inheritance. Don't believe a word out of his mouth & keep your inheritance. Your grandmother raised you, not him. You owe him nothing. If your mother was manipulated by your grandmother, as HE claims, it doesn't matter, because HE still chose to stay out of your life.
He is lying through his teeth!! If what he's saying is true why hasn't your mother contacted you....EVER?? He is greedy and his "new" family wants what YOU have!! They had parents YOU didn't they can ALL F TF off!! Block all of them get a restraining order if necessary but for the love of God do NOT feel guilty.
