Evelyn, the only "line" you might have crossed was allowing yourself a moment of frustration and revenge as you hid some of her things, but I think that is a forgivable crossing of the line. My father also remarried after my beloved mother died of cancer 19 days after it was diagnosed. I was 30 and pregnant with my 2nd child - a little girl who never got to meet her grandmother. My father's second wife demanded that he sell his house and buy a new one for them. I lost not only my mother but also the home where all our memories of her were. When they moved, she insisted they get rid of everything and buy new furniture and kitchen accessories so that she literally did not have to touch anything that my mother had touched. She married a man with 5 children and 11 grandchildren and wanted him to pretend that he had no past. My family fell completely apart. Women need to learn that when they marry a man who had already been married, if they can't accept his children, his habits, his first family's traditions and important days, then they should not marry him. I totally understand your feelings and your reactions - it's something that people cannot understand if they haven't lived the same experience.
