I Refuse to Cook Lunch for My Husband’s Family Every Sunday, So I Set the Perfect Trap

Thank you for sharing this, I think you should have come straight and told them that if you will be expected to hold family lunches every Sunday, then you will be needing them to turn up earlier and help out with prepping the dishes as doing it all alone is quite a lot, their reaction would have informed your next action. Frankly speaking I hope you are able to amicably resolve the situation with your husband. And I hope you're doing ok too

The extra mess and broken things was over the line, the leaving a mess and packing your bags is perfectly reasonable, and if your 'husband' is more concerned about not offending his family to the point of abusing your hospitality, and making you do all the work then leaving gives both of you time to figure out if this marriage can and should work out. You are a partner, not a slave, and no amount of "they helped get the house" changes that. Especially if it was a LOAN that you are paying back.

I do think you over reacted with making the mess and smashing crockery that was childish and imature. But personsly i would have cooked the meal then sat down and told them where the kitchen was and said somone else can clean up seen as i did all the hard work. If nothing happens then say i will do it for the last time. no more sunday meals will be cooked by me. Unless i get help.

Bitch your spoiled ass would of got a good ass whipping in front of everyone and I mean a good one and then you and your bags would of been on the streets

OR, you could've just not cooked.

So their generosity came with a number of conditions.
The loan was for him and then he should reasonably be in the kitchen and fix everything.
Unfortunately, your husband thinks that the food and kitchen service is your job and that will never change.
It's up to you to decide if you want to stay in such a one-sided marriage where he decides things and you have to implement what he has decided so that you will be "grateful" that he has received money for the house.
Unfortunately, it will never get better. You would be better off living somewhere else yourself...

You're a spoiled child, grow up. Let your husband know he will be helping you clean up after dinner every Sunday. However, if your relatives had any manners at all they would offer to help with the cleanup.

It sounds like they were looking to move in. Just let them have it, because you will become the maid waiting on everyone.

In the wrong, adults use words instead of actions. Grow up or get out.

REALLY, SIS?!? That's how u stood up for urself by acting like toddler??? Grown-ups speak up & don't throw tantrums. AND U HAD UR BAGS PACKED...???? Bc of this??? Maybe u wasn't ready 2 get married. Still have A LOT of growing up 2 do.

Yes, you went too far. You're a childish idiot. Your husband is also worthless because he should be doing half of the work for these dinners. Here's how adulting works. "I don't really want to host big dinners every sunday, guys. It's too much work and it eats up my weekend. How about once a month?"

No you didn't go to far. It would have pissed me off too. Especially if I do all the work and nobody ever offers to help and Especially not even a thank you. So what your husband got all embarrassed. Maybe he learned a lesson from it. Maybe he can see all the hard work you do and nobody appreciates it. GOOD FOR YOU 😁

Lol

No ! I’m clapping for you & now you should keep on trucking out of this dysfunctional marriage & break free on your own. Listen to your gut …They must feel You only own 20% & cook & maid services were part of the deal … Shame on your spine-less & apparently broke husband… get rid of him … you deserve much better & you did not go too far … find your own house & never take money from in-laws … owing money from the bank is better than in-laws…find a home that you can afford & sleep soundly knowing no one calls the shots but you …plus find a partner that every other word is not “mommy”

I do think you took it too far. Be grateful for the time that you have with them, because you never know when the last day is you could going to their funeral on a Sunday. you will never have that chance again.

To teach them a less

you could have just ordered a bucket Kentucky Fried Chicken. With paper plates plastic forks, bottled soda, 😆.

Open communication Moving forward, they're gonna have to help out or no more Sunday dinners. Talk it out, see what happens, they may surprise you by making dinner and cleaning up.

For you to make a mess in the kitchen,by destroying property. That was stupid, lol I would say, you clean it up. You made the mess, not them. You were wrong in how you handled that. You're a grown woman. You made that decision yourself. What did they do? Force you to cook every Sunday, wash dishes and what would happen if you didn't, would they beat you up, torture you.

I hope they never have another Sunday dinner with you ever again. That is gonna make you feel worsen. I think you are very ungrateful, and disrespectful in so many ways.

Should have just served microwave sandwiches and pop tarts

Yes. You went too far. What you did was petty and immature. You husband should have been helping you with these dinners. Also, they should not be every weekend. Once a month is plenty. You have a husband problem and he needs to be in this with you, not taking advantage of you.

How old are you? 12? Some people go through life moving once a year, and never own a house? What good you bring to the table that entitles you to have selfless people get you a place to call home? If is such a burden order to go and hire someone to clean on Monday. When you grow old and mature you will see.
I am embarrase’d for your parents,
Apologize and make amends: they lived 24 years without you and can live 30 more as a unite family leaving you out