Well played Lucy. Grow tf up Bella. And what about adult dad. Everyone’s acting like adults except Bella b**ch a$$. It’s fuckimg weird to have photos of your partners deceased person all throughout the house anyway. Get over yourself Bella and have a mocha choca frapalatte and stfu
“Recently, I lost my mom. I knew that my life wouldn’t be the same anymore, but I didn’t expect it to flip that much.” When our reader’s dad remarried someone her age, he expected them to bond like family. But after her new “mom” crossed a line, Bella couldn’t stay quiet. How can she navigate this new family dynamic when it feels like she is losing her dad, too?
Hello, Bright Side,
My name is Bella, and I’m 24 years old. Recently, I lost my mom. I knew that my life wouldn’t be the same anymore, but I didn’t expect it to flip that much.
So, my dad (59) married Lucy (27) and keeps forcing me to “be friends” with her. I feel sick. At dinner, my dad started again, so I snapped: “She’s closer to my age than you, and she’ll never be family to me.” Lucy just smirked.
The next day, I froze when I saw that Lucy had taken down all my mom’s old photos from the living room. When I confronted her, she said, “Since we’re not family, don’t expect me to treat you like one. Your mom isn’t my family either.”
I told my dad, but he brushed it off, saying I needed to move on. He added that I needed to understand that it was his life now, and I should respect his choices.
I’m really struggling with this. I’ve tried to make peace with it, but I just don’t think I can accept Lucy as part of my life. I feel like I’m losing both my mom’s memory and my dad in a way, and I don’t know if I’m being unreasonable here. Any advice would be really appreciated.
You don't have to except her just because he said so. You have your mother to respect to. Besides that girl doesn't really want to be a friend to you. Tell your dad he needs to make a choice or move on.
I think your father is living in fantasy land. Suggest you make it a priority to go out on your own and keep your father at arms length. His new wife was completely disrespectful and acted very childish.
You will lose both, your dad is trying to move forward with what he wants. He's doesn't care to understand where you are at, is all about him and his new toy. You need to understand that he has the right to make decisions even if you don't agree. She may be the one that helps him through this time. Don't do anything you will regret. Explain to him all you can do is try ask for the photos and your mom's things so you can have some keepsakes. Some people can just move forward quickly and some can't.
You’re 24 years old. It’s time you moved out and get your own place.
Young girls/women with old guys are after money and will do as little in bed to keep getting it. While they have a young guy on the side that doesn't need little blue pills!! Young boys/men who are with old ladies want a Mom they can F that will take care of them financially and housecleaning and cook etc. The faster people realize this the better. Maybe 1 in a million have actual relationships but it's rare.
I'm really feeling sorry for you. We will be married 47yrs this year. It is true love.
Putting it bluntly, your dad is a piece of shi" and this 27 year old only sees dollar signs. These old fools think they have anything in common with a 27yr old is pathetic, im 62 yrs i know, your best thing to do is walk away , your relationship with your father will get worse as long as the gold digger is their . Men are so dumb sometimes sorry
Your 27 walk away !
She's 24, step-mother is 27.
Go get those pictures of your mom before the 2nd wife puts them in the trash.
So next .. I guess you'll have to start meeting your dad for lunch or dinner. Just the two of you. Don't talk about the 2nd wife, talk about your future. If he is a good dad he will be proud of you for planning for the future and having goals..
If he is not a good dad.. I'm so sorry. Some are selfish.
Sounds like he'll bring his wife. "So you can get to know each other." Pushing her farther away.
Dear Bella,
You’re in a tough spot, and it’s clear you’re doing your best to handle an emotionally complicated situation. Whether it’s not very clear if you still live at your dad’s and if Lucy wants you two to be close, we believe that the key here is to find ways to communicate what you need to your dad and also to give yourself the space to process what’s happening in a way that feels manageable and doable in the current situation.
Another reader faced a similar crossroads when his parents rejected his wife, forcing him to make the painful choice to cut ties. Now, they want to reconnect with their child, and he’s left wondering: Is it too little, too late?
Hey dad do you realize that when she was born you were 32 at least you waited until she was of legal age
Introduce your stepmom to a couple of your male friends. I'm sure she'll be cheating on your dad within the next month and a half or two. No 27-year-old woman marries a 50-something year old man out of love.
As previously stated, get your mom's photos and other keepsakes from her. Seems like your dad doesn't care where they go. I fear that Lucy has your dad by the cajones and you won't have him until he's over his love sickness. Cherish your mom's memory, go LC, don't expect an inheritance, and live a life with family you do choose.
Start dating a 65yr old man, preferably one of your dad's friends.
Start calling him daddy in front of your dad.
Nuking this whole thing from orbit is the only way to be sure.
Until the gold digger is gone, there will be no relationship with your dad. Cut them both off ... tell your dad to contact you when sugared baby is gone. You won't be waiting long.
